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  • Money & Stress: Take this to the bank | bpHope - bp Magazine Community
    about money says Andrea 36 who lives in New York City But after the fact I get upset about the money spent It s a vicious loop that has me swiveling from anxious to depressed If you re shopping to get a little boost and you re in debt already it will have the opposite effect agrees consumer psychologist Kit Yarrow PhD author of Decoding the New Consumer Mind Instead of shopping for things you probably don t need and may not be able to afford consider what you already own and think about how you might repurpose it Look for ways to get more out of the stuff you already have see what you have and what you really need says Yarrow As an added benefit she says Cataloging and knowing what you have makes people feel more in control 4 Address your emotions Whether to avoid a shopping splurge in particular or to defuse money worries in general look for positive ways to cope with the emotions you re feeling Call a supportive friend or family member pursue a hobby go for a walk journal about your state of mind or take some time to meditate or pray Staying in the moment can keep you from worrying about what ifs Somers says that feelings of depression often lead to feeling gloomy about the future Focusing on the here and now and being mindful keeps us from picking up the pen and writing scary endings Andrea admits to fretting about potentially expensive disasters like car repairs or medical bills I am always worried about the lack of money no matter what the status of my bank account is she says and she doesn t see that changing anytime soon Instead she focuses on ways to bring down her anxiety levels I log into my bank account and check the status she says Then I try to separate the reality of the bank account from my fear a lot of which stems from having a topsy turvy childhood as far as money is concerned Meditation also helps me to stay in the present to calm myself Jerod cops to a similar high alert mode about his finances My anxiety about money builds up and builds up he says Exercise is his go to solution Going to the gym raises my levels of every happy juice in my body that can keep me functioning with the stressors of the day he says 5 Get a grip on money scripts Becoming aware of unconscious attitudes toward money that you ve carried since childhood your money scripts can help you be more deliberate in how you approach your finances Klontz says that as we grow up we develop an inner narrative influenced by our parents and grandparents That affects not only our spending and saving patterns but how we respond to money issues on an emotional level Shannon s anxiety about money likely traces back to hard times after her father lost his job We knew that bill collectors had called and there wasn t food in our fridge Before that we had dinner four or five times out a week recalls the 36 year old who lives in Ontario Both as a university student and a financially secure adult Shannon says she worried about paying bills even when logic would suggest that money wasn t a problem I would be thinking about my bank account subtracting numbers and adding numbers and losing a lot of sleep It just seemed like there wasn t enough for me To explore your money scripts think about what you picked up as a youngster Were your parents anxious or worried about money or did they spend freely no matter the consequences Did they talk about money What value did they put on earning and saving Then you can ask yourself a new set of questions What did you learn about money that still seems valid Which beliefs can you question Understanding how you feel about money and why can give you some distance from oversized emotional responses says Klontz Discussing your attitudes with people you trust also can help you throw away your scripts and change your attitudes in a positive way Money is a very taboo topic in our culture and that s what makes it more challenging than most other topics Klontz notes It s a huge blind spot for most of us and something we never really talk about 6 Take charge One thing that has helped Shannon is setting goals about how she manages her money I do a lot of cognitive behavioral therapy kind of work she says I ll say This is where I want to be and this is what I need to do She also keeps a calendar where she tracks what needs paying and when She contacted her utility companies to request equal billing so that her estimated annual expense is divided into 12 predictable amounts I also try to space out the bills which makes me a little calmer she says When the bills come all at once my anxiety start racing Anything that helps you feel more in control will contribute toward making peace with money issues Taking the time to evaluate your finances and making proactive decisions about how you manage your money can give you a feeling of empowerment One important strategy is switching to an all cash diet Leave your credit cards at home or better yet cancel all but one and keep that just for emergencies and use only the coin of the realm for your day to day spending Using cash helps you understand the value of your money says Yarrow It also makes you more purposeful about how you re spending your money Another good approach Creating a savings goal Even if it feels impossible commit to setting aside a certain amount per week or month toward something concrete whether it s a vacation new clothes or just an

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  • The spending spree | bpHope - bp Magazine Community
    bipolar disorder who dive into a morass of financial missteps they are sufficiently out of sorts that it is clear that something is not right However there are others Dr Mondimore points out who may settle into a state of hypomania That he explains is not as visibly irrational or extreme as other states but still problematic enough to prompt financial steps and decisions that considered under different circumstances would be dismissed as ill advised Hypomania is less severe so it doesn t come off as complete disorganization Rather it seems more like an elevation of mood and energy level he says That s where people can really get into the most financial trouble Because they re not so grossly disorganized people can walk into a dealership buy a car and no one would think twice about it It really is the most dangerous state The confusing nature of bipolar disorder can go even further than that As Dr Mondimore points out a patient who may have been in a down state for weeks or months and suddenly emerges from that bleak setting is likely to be relieved that his mood has lifted However feeling better doesn t necessarily bring emotional and psychological balance Another difficult part is recognizing when a down period ends and what can happen after that he says Periods of feeling good when you can make financial mistakes are often not recognized as abnormal mood states Nor do the financial problems only come down to self serving spending orgies Until she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in her later 40s Jackie thought her financial generosity to various inner city religious organizations was simply the right thing to do I gave them all my retirement money thinking that was what God wanted me to do she says I also charged about 40 000 for airline tickets hotel rooms and other expenses It was only when I was out from under the grandiosity of the disorder that I saw what was happening Couple those issues with the sheer variety and availability to spend money recklessly and the potential for lifelong financial hardship becomes all the more problematic From mega malls with hundreds of retailers to the Internet where tens of thousands of shopping options are a mouse click away a person with bipolar disorder looking to spend has an unhealthy lineup of choices Furthermore credit card offers arrive in the mail on a daily basis Particularly perilous are television based shopping shows and networks where items are pitched with glamorous ruthlessness Those really feed into the manic energy that many patients with bipolar disorder experience says Dr Mondimore I know one patient whose mood was about to change when he started tearing out response cards from magazines Fortunately there are a variety of steps and strategies that these people and their support providers can pursue to head off financial missteps or at the very least minimize damage First is a matter of simple awareness Both the person with bipolar disorder and those close to them should get to know the warning signs that suggest that a shift in mood and potentially in money habits may be around the corner The real key is recognizing the red flags that can crop up I know one patient whose mood was about to change when he started tearing out response cards from magazines says Dr Mondimore But they re as individual as the person so recognizing these red flags comes with experience Equally important is having a comprehensive plan in place to head off irrational money decisions before they even occur For instance if a person with bipolar disorder maintains an investment portfolio it s smart to work with a trustworthy financial planner adviser or broker Work out a detailed overview of financial goals and reasonable steps needed to attain those objectives If it s appropriate let them know about the bipolar disorder condition That s sensible on several levels For one thing it s simply smart to map out a financial plan no matter the obstacles with which you may have to deal But it also can prove valuable to a financial advisor who knows what your goals are and what you ve agreed to do That way he or she can notice those instances when a certain sort of behavior doesn t seem appropriate I can t legally say no if for instance a client calls and orders a trade that doesn t seem to make sense says Clemans But if the behavior seems odd that can provide a check I can either suggest that we meet face to face to discuss it or I can contact a family member or friend who may be able to intervene Even if they re fairly depressed or manic sometimes pointing out that what they re suggesting doesn t fit with the plan you agreed on may work adds Dr O Brien Sometimes that can cut through the emotions and even if it doesn t it s still worth a try That strategy can be taken a step further if need be Should the potential fallout be serious enough investigate giving a friend or loved one financial power of attorney to limit individual money decisions Even something as simple as checking accounts where two signatures are required can make it more difficult to follow through on ill advised financial choices Consider some consumer based moves as well If you think you can manage go without a credit card or as an option one with an exceedingly modest credit limit Investigate debit cards as an alternative Rather than a line of credit these are tied to a bank account and can effectively limit spending to whatever assets are in the account Experts and people with bipolar disorder agree that it s imperative to stick with both a treatment plan as well as a systematic approach to getting out of debt If for instance you have several credit card debts paying off the smallest

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  • The draft folder | bpHope - bp Magazine Community
    even print out a picture of the precious and commit to hold off on your purchase for a period of time Clarify if it is a need or want How do you feel about it a week or even a month later I promise it will go on sale again I d love to hear your suggestions for managing impulsivity What are your experiences and what has worked or not worked for you Tagged with Bipolar And Impulsive Behavior Email Jon Press remorse Shopping spending About the author Jon Press Has 81 Articles Jon Press is a husband and father living in the Chicago suburbs He holds a BA in Religion an MA in Christian Education is certified in Mental Health First Aid and has taken several graduate level courses towards a Masters degree in Community Counseling He was first diagnosed with Bipolar I in college 1989 After many seasons of depression and hypo mania his diagnosis was later revised to Bipolar II 2002 Following a hospitalization in 2010 he became fiercely committed to his own recovery and to connecting with others in the bp community Jon was featured on the This is Me page in the 2012 Winter Edition of bp Magazine He facilitates a depression bipolar and anxiety support group in the Chicago area called Fresh Hope He is delighted to be a part of the bphope blogging team In sharing personal stories and experiences his goal is to foster community by challenging educating and inspiring positive change LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked Message First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email RELATED ARTICLES My Quirky Bipolar December 9 2015 12 01 am Hi all how s the season treating you We re in Summer Down Under and the festive season has begun So full on with all the events Hope and Harmony Headlines Reining In Your Holiday Shopping December 1 2015 12 30 pm Spend wisely The holiday shopping season sets up conditions that are ripe for overspending Setting aside any hypo manic tendencies there s something about the whole Money Stress Take this to the bank December 1 2015 12 08 pm Patients with Severe Mental Illness Rarely Tested for Diabetes Despite High Risk Study Shows By Kelly James Enger We all have an occasional sleepless My World Tricked by Mania November 10 2015 1 18 pm No matter how good it feels euphoric mania is destructive Learn to identify and manage your warning signs to stay on track By Julie A CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues October 1 2015 11 50 am Fall 2015 BIPOLAR DEPRESSION Letting the light in By Robin L Flanigan Strategies to dispel the darkness of bipolar depression starting with the good enough theory taking Read more August 3 2015 9 12 am Summer 2015 MARY LAMBERT SPREADING THE LOVE By Stephanie Stephens Singer songwriter Mary Lambert puts it all out there in her hit Secrets and she lives

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  • Surviving Holiday Stress | bpHope - bp Magazine Community
    look past irritations and find ways to be grateful For example let go of self critical feelings if the house isn t spotless as your guests arrive and focus instead on how much you enjoy their company Yes this takes some practice but there s plenty of research proving that nurturing an attitude of gratitude has benefits for your physical and mental health 7 If all else fails and you do slip into depression accept that you are only human Turn to trusted professionals as needed revisit tried and true techniques for recovery and hold onto the knowledge that like the holiday season this too shall pass Tagged with anxiety blog christmas Holidays stress Thanksgiving About the author Anonymous User Has 11 Articles 3 COMMENTS astrong December 10 2015 Reply Report user I can t figure out how to have an extraordinary Christmas without consumerism As my medical costs are always high I receive wonderful care for my concerns but it s not cheap I feel like I m robbing Peter to pay Pan every year Some of the best psychiatrists no longer take medicare or insurance have already done their decades of hospital rounds and no longer deal with hospitals It s more important now than ever to stay stable during the holidays I ve been hospitalized at Xmas and it s not fun Artquilter December 11 2015 Reply Offer yourself Give a coupon for a service you can perform Laundry cleaning shopping gardening cooking baking etc use your hands and heart to make something Offer childcare eldercare Often these things are more valuable to the recipient than any tangible gift The key is to use your imagination to fit the gift to the recipient A diabetic doesn t need cookies but might like a house sitter when they go on vacation gem December 20 2015 Reply I took a big step and invited my in laws stepson his wife and kids for Christmas I asked my stepson and he said his wife might not come because of being tired from work They stopped over the next day and he hadn t told his wife She in turn invited us to their house and wants to make a big meal and invited 2 other people over I told her I already invited them She said I could have snacks earlier in the day and have everyone over then we could drive out of town to their house to have dinner around 5 30 pm I just do not think I can handle all that time with everyone at two places plus we will be up late on Christmas Eve going to a candlelight service Another thing is that we have a funeral on December 22 and picking up my daughter on the 20th who will be here until Jan 1 or 2 We are also planning an 80th birthday for my mom on Jan 17th With all of these things happening I feel like I am jumping through hoops

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  • 3 quick steps to de-stress | bpHope - bp Magazine Community
    first minute assess your current situation What are you thinking What s causing you stress 2 For the second minute focus on the physical sensations of your breath 3 For the third minute focus on the physical sensations of your entire body To read more check out Take A Minute Tagged with and stress Bipolar Disorder LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked Message First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email RELATED ARTICLES Bipolar Disorder Demanding Better Care February 5 2016 12 01 am It s been nine years since my late husband David s body was found He d disappeared six weeks earlier in one of the most beautiful and rugged Clinical Pearls Self Care and Managing Bipolar Disorder February 3 2016 12 01 am One of the things I have been focused on in the last few months has been really trying to take care of myself This has Bipolar Letting Love In February 2 2016 12 01 am Several years ago I made the decision to choose God in my life I accepted Jesus had a water baptism and felt ready to put Living With Bipolar Disorder How I Got to Not Meet Oprah January 29 2016 2 59 pm For the last 12 years I have sporadically gone through periods of outstanding clarity and positivity In those moments days weeks I was invincible and CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues October 1 2015 11 50 am Fall 2015 BIPOLAR DEPRESSION Letting the light in By Robin L Flanigan Strategies to dispel the darkness of bipolar depression starting with the good enough theory taking Read more August 3 2015 9 12 am Summer 2015 MARY LAMBERT SPREADING THE LOVE By Stephanie Stephens Singer songwriter Mary Lambert puts it all out there in her hit Secrets and she lives the Read more April 1 2015 11 37 am Spring 2015 TAME YOUR TRIGGERS By Robin L Flanigan From major life events to emotional patterns we all have stressors that are likely to spark Read more January 1 2015 5 36 am Winter 2015 OUR LEADING LADY CARRIE FISHER By Stephanie Stephens Carrie Fisher is returning as Princess Leia in a new Star Wars movie but she s always been Read more SoundOFF YOU YOUR PSYCHIATRIST The relationship between you and your psychiatrist can influence your recovery What qualities do you think are important in a psychiatrist In what ways has your doctor helped you the most Click here to reply CURRENT RESEARCH The Prechter Fund s Fight to Cure Bipolar Disorder 1 28 2016 Brain connectivity outweighs genetics 1 27 2016 Heinz C Prechter Bipolar Research Fund 1 25 2016 Looking for Motivation Enjoying the Task at Hand Will Matter Once You Start 1 20 2016 Immune cells linked to bipolar symptoms 1 11 2016 CONNECT Letter to the Editor Write to us SoundOFF Question On My Mind Write an essay Talk to bp Writers Forum Join our

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  • 7 Tips For Coping With Stressful Events When You’re Bipolar | bpHope - bp Magazine Community
    and at home with her spouse and three children Her favorite things include meditation Diet Pepsi Arizona and football Through her writing she hopes to encourage and inspire anyone fighting a daily battle Read more from Melanie on her blog MelanieMeditates com 14 COMMENTS Shari January 14 2016 Reply I find maintaining a daily meditation practice can be a big help as well Even if it is just 10 minutes a day it can make a big difference Thank you for your great tips melaniemk January 14 2016 Reply Report user So true Shari I m a huge fan of meditation Thank you for the reminder D January 14 2016 Reply Sorry about your husband s injury And that stress you both suffered Great post great tips p s With all due respect the day I started saying I have bipolar instead of I m bipolar as in the title it was such a positive shift in my self identity Some people don t care either way and that s fine I read you re newly diagnosed I just wanted to share my experience with you because I believe our words have more power than we truly realize Bipolar is just a part of us not 100 melaniemk January 14 2016 Reply Report user Thank you for opening my eyes to a new way of thinking about my disorder I honestly had not thought one way or the other about it but I ll definitely keep your words in mind and try to be more sensitive in how I phrase the disorder in the future Thank you for being so kind about it Have a great day D January 15 2016 Reply You are awesome It makes complete sense that you wouldn t be pondering this semantics topic so soon after being dx I didn t for years You are totally sensitive it shines through your writing It s not even a question of sensitivity I just thought for your own personal growth as you evolve with having bp it s something to think about take care Jasmine January 14 2016 Reply Thank you so very much for these tips I currently am getting ready to move across the nation to my dad s house so he may help me cope with bp2 To make matters crazier I m also doing it because 4 months ago my best friend and room mate fell down the stairs and broke her heel bone Since she is going with me it means a bit more of a challenge Add in I also am taking my cat and you have the recipe for a perfect storm Your advice is like gold right now Thank you again melaniemk January 14 2016 Reply Report user I m so happy you found this helpful Good luck on your trip I know you can do it Gina January 14 2016 Reply This is a great list I really agree w it My therapist has helped me develop alot of these coping skills Others I would add is 1 making sure you don t miss doses of your meds Developing a good system whether it be pre pouring or a phone app Not letting meds run out Having refills at pharmacy Making sure you keep appts w MD to get those refills This used to be a huge problem and led to relapses when I ran of meds or missed several doses 2 Making lists w Tasks w dates to be done for week or month to not get overwhelmed w responsibility and not to fall behind w paying bills meetings at kids teachers work car inspection When it s all spelled out and I can cross it off it makes it doable and satisfaction when I see all the things crossed off I do it w household chores too 3 I ask for help But don t really have many ppl to rely on this has been a huge let down for me Any ideas where to get help via mental health orgs Support groups I am in long Beach ny That would be a huge help for me Julie January 14 2016 Reply I haven t found enough to cope My son passed away 6 22 15 I watched him slip away in 9 days while ARDS stole his breath I go about everyday doing the best I can without completely losing control I can t say what will or can help when you lose your child He was 23 received his degree in game design and development just over a year before He was on his way to an independent life I can t imagine anything worse than to lose a child I am lucky to have the best husband daughter to notice when I start sinking Anything anyone could offer would be greatly appreciated I am doing as much as I can of these tips as I can so far you meds are helping to keep any feelings of suicide away I was diagnosed 4 years ago while trying to kill myself slowly and painfully and ended up voluntarily committing myself when the episode finally subsided enough to know this wasn t normal We are all fearful of the affect this tragedy will have adding into it more stress of aging parents one whom has a form of aggressive Dementia that will take all he knows within 6 months They say life only gives you what you can handle Someone s really pushing the limits melaniemk January 15 2016 Reply Report user I m so sorry for your loss Julie That has got to be extremely difficult for you I lost my 5 week old son in 2007 so I can somewhat relate to what you re going through It s awful and I m just so sorry I hope you are finding moments of peace and giving yourself space to grieve You ve made it this far You are strong You can do this

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  • Being moody may help us adapt to change | bpHope - bp Magazine Community
    everything around me by a sensitivity to meaning and context I have no limit of anger and sadness there are joys injustices the recognitions of falsehood morality philosophies gratitude wonder amazement comedy laughter tears Please don t place editorial limits on your readers We are not all here to read the drug advertising If you need money and advertisers why don t you pay for my internet so I can read all your ads MG November 12 2015 Reply Admittedly this message may seem off subject but it really isn t for reasons that will become apparent I suspect that a good percentage of your readers are over the age of 40 That said readers like myself who fall well within that age bracket do not enjoy the same degree of visual acuity as we did when we were young and impervious to the vulgarities of advancing maturity To further emphasize my point the eye strain that I m sure many of your readers like myself experience only serves to AGGRAVATE our mood disorders Personally reading your blog for the first time this morning makes me want to race home from work and gobble down more of my cocktail of Rx meds NOT a good thing as I m sure you can appreciate Please direct your web designer whom I suspect has perfect 20 20 vision uncorrected and is not afflicted by the already FRUSTRATING scourge of bi polar disorder as I am to PLEASE for the love of all that s good and decent in the world increase the FONT SIZE of your text content A bare minimum of 14px or equivalent would be appreciated This is an EASY fix In fact my 12 year old daughter could do this in oh 10 minutes tops So thank you in advance for your consideration of my request I ll come back to this site in a couple of weeks to see if your VERY helpful information er at least the parts that I was actually able to read can be consumed without my feeling the overwhelming desire to jump out of my 4th floor window I m sure you wouldn t want to be responsible for that Oh and one more thing While your web guy is at it ask h her to add a SEARCH box at the top of all your pages This is also a simple fix that would make it much easier to find specific information on your site If such a feature already exists on your site I didn t see it in which case a search box doesn t really exist at all if no one can find it Sincerely MG P S Have a wonderful day MG November 12 2015 Reply UPDATE Please scratch my request for a SEARCH box I found it on the top left side of this page My mistake I must have still been recovering from the aforementioned eye strain and didn t see it the first time Thanks

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  • Slow Living | bpHope - bp Magazine Community
    what ever happened to the notion of the Sabbath designed to be a a day of rest or for general slowness may do more than just us as individuals some real good And then of course there s sleep and deep breathing Can t do well with those if constantly moving fast I know that for me slowing down in all aspects of my life helps me feel better sleep better work better and be a better wife and family member My ability to cope with bipolar and other conditions is improved I am able to love with a rested heart and an open mind It is not how much we do but how much love we put in the doing It is not how much we give but how much love we put in the giving Mother Teresa photo Beth Mader Tagged with Beth Mader bipolar diet bipolar relationships bipolar stress bipolar wellness slow living the slow movement About the author Beth Brownsberger Mader Has 199 Articles Beth Brownsberger Mader was diagnosed with bipolar type II disorder and C PTSD in 2004 at age 38 after decades of confusion and pain In the past decade she has studied the two disorders worked in peer support and sought a path to her own wellness Today Beth works as a freelance writer and artist She became a contributing editor featured columnist for BP Magazine in 2007 and blogger for bpHope in 2011 Beth holds a B A from Colorado College and M F A from University of Denver Beth s primary area of interest is the relationship between bipolar and PTSD She is currently working on a memoir and building a body of artwork focusing on her recovery Check out Beth s blog at http www bessiebandaidrinkiewater wordpress com 2 COMMENTS Karen March 21 2015 Reply This is a very helpful essay Beth I hate slowing down but it comes with a price no balance I really like the day of no tech to intentionally spend the day absorbed in the here and now kim m March 21 2015 Reply this is good stuff for ALL folks who choose be present Slowing down encourages mindful thinking and gratefulness for what exists in the NOW Thank you for that lovely reminder Love you LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked Message First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email RELATED ARTICLES Living with Bipolar Why I Still Exercise and Do Yoga February 6 2016 1 01 am I wrote in this winter s issue of BP Magazine Why I still Exercise about how despite both mental and physical struggles and restrictions I continue New Year New Care January 9 2016 1 01 am It s that time of year again when after signing up new health insurance plans in the US have some of us seeking new health care providers Headlines Holidays and Hope December 26 2015 1 01 am Fourteen

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