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  • empowerment — Career Life Coaching
    the fashion industry in New York and then started her own business in the 1980 s as she wanted to get back to the simple joy of playing with fabric She began making quilts See her picture above with a thimble on her finger and quilt behind her As I sat in her studio drinking herbal tea that chilly afternoon I was struck by how much she truly loves what she does Pattiy shared her work and encouraged me to touch and try on her creations I walked out with one of her lovely fleece hats on my head Whenever I wear it I think of the joy of the artist who made it and it makes me feel good it s nice and warm too Do you have passion at work If you are shaking your head NO you might re consider if you feel or express any of the following Empowered energized excited unstoppable joy entertaining creative evocative motivated a sense of flow giving to others or sharing your talents And if none of those words apply you might rethink your career path Life is too short to spend more than half your waking hours in passionless work Filed Under Featured Finding Your Passion Tagged With art career creativity empowerment energy joy love talents work Gremlin Taming how to free yourself from your inner critic September 16 2010 by Dee Relyea I ve been revisiting a gem of a book Taming Your Gremlin A surprisingly simple method for getting out of your own way by Rick Carson I ve worked with this marvelous material with my coaching clients over the last few years to help them overcome self limiting beliefs and negative self talk I ve found Rick s book so useful that today I registered for a 3 month tele course with him to learn more Gremlin Taming strategies and techniques Here s why I like his work and this book in particular It is written simply no esoteric detail or religious dogma The author personifies the narrator in your head as a Gremlin who influences you My concept of a gremlin is like the picture above I found this little gray guy at my son s house this summer just hanging out in the garden It is flat out full of laugh out loud bits especially the stories from the author s personal experience There are fill in the blank pages like a kid s Big Book of Fun to help the reader with self discovery In describing the acts we put on he uses such terms as Back to the Land Woodsman Red Hot Mama Pious Puritan Hard Rocker Damsel in Distress and Macho Man Have you met some of those folks Yeah me too Lots of pages have hand drawn illustrations most of which are quite humorous The definitions are clear and easy to understand Your Gremlin is the narrator in your head He has influenced you since you came into this world He s with you when you wake up in the morning and when you go to sleep at night He tells you who and how you are and he defines and interprets your every experience He wants you to accept his interpretations as reality and his goal from moment to moment day to day is to squelch the natural vibrant you within your Gremlin wants you to feel bad The Natural You is the one inside that miraculous mass of matter out of which you are now peering The natural me is inside my own body which is at this moment holding a pen From inside this aging sculpture of hair eyes teeth and limbs the natural me is writing the words Hello in there You just pulled in through your eyes the words Hello in there The natural you understands the essence of my words Your mind is busy making sense out of them Your Gremlin meanwhile is gnashing his teeth and screeching something like This is ridiculous or You re just going to get your hopes up and end up disappointed Nothing s going to change least of all you Or You need another self help book like a hole in the head Beliefs are just opinions that we develop loyalty to so that we can pretend that the world has at least a modicum of predictability Doing so helps us feel safe Ironically we sometimes fight to defend our beliefs creating anything but a safe situation so true Taming Your Gremlin is both playful and powerful It emphasizes self inquiry and self acceptance as the keys to higher awareness If you are looking for liberation from your inner critic check out this book And come on back and visit this blog I m sure I ll post more on Gremlin Taming as I go through the tele course Here is the author s website tamingyourgremlin com In relationship to your spotlight of awareness you can be a passenger or a driver a victim or a participant a pawn or a player You choose Not once and for all but in each moment of your precious life Rick Carson Filed Under Featured Self Development Tagged With attitude book review empowerment meditation self actualization Thinking like an Entrepreneur September 14 2009 by Dee Relyea For most people the toughest part about leaving a job is the concern about a stable income We live in a culture that trains us from childhood to follow the rules work hard know the right answers and teachers will reward you with good grades These lessons groom us for the employee mentality Be at work on time work hard maybe you can get a good grade resulting in the reward of a raise By virtue of our jobs we live around set schedules of when to sleep eat go to work take a break go home and take vacations It is a very structured life Step out of the job world and you are suddenly

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  • energy — Career Life Coaching
    turn out a certain way 3 Hold your boundaries allow yourself to just say NO If you are feeling overwhelmed don t take on more obligations What can you let go of to give yourself more time and energy Note to self I give myself permission to skip hand writing notes in holiday cards this year I am not staying up half the night this year to get cards in the mail in time 4 Let go of outmoded traditions Does your family have holiday traditions that may no longer be relevant but you continue them anyway I love the story about the gathered generations of women preparing a holiday ham One cuts both ends of the ham before placing it in the roasting pan The youngest says Mom why did you cut off both ends of the ham She answers because that is the way your grandmother always prepares it The little girl then went to her grandmother and asked the same question Her grandmother s response I had to because my pan was too small In my example it was a big deal to make loads of holiday treats participate in cookie exchanges and engage my kids in the process Now as a gluten free empty nester it doesn t make sense to do all that baking Create Peace and Joy 1 Do something for others Consider being a bell ringer for a couple of hours or volunteer to distribute food or toys for a non profit Put your personal holiday stress in perspective by helping those less fortunate 2 Take care of yourself If you have an exercise routine keep it up Nothing releases stress in the body better than exercise Watch what you eat and drink and try not to overindulge If you need a break from people take it One workshop participant who was hosting extended family in her home said she retreated to her closet a couple of times a day for a 15 minute meditation break 3 Have fun experiences Play board games go for walks drive around and see holiday lights do some interactive activities with others If there are children around engage with them Nothing brings joy like a little person s laughter 4 Don t take yourself or your opinions too seriously Allow other people to be right Avoid confrontations with others The old adage count to 10 before you respond is still good advice I find it beneficial to take 3 or 4 deep slow breaths when tensions arise It relaxes the body forces more oxygen to your brain and enables you to make a more conscious choice in responding in challenging conversations or situations Wishing you all the peace love joy and wonder of the season Dee Filed Under Featured Self Development Tagged With energy holiday joy peace stress management Let Your Passion Fuel Your Work March 1 2012 by Dee Relyea When you enjoy the nature of your work your potential for true career fulfillment skyrockets positioning

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  • enlightenment — Career Life Coaching
    perception 3 Set wake up calls When I was in grad school I was also a student in The Fourth Way work which was based on the teachings of G I Gurdjieff One of the most interesting homework assignments we were given was called the doorway exercise Every time you pass through a doorway say to yourself I am here now When you realize you have sailed through a doorway without remembering your statement in essence being on autopilot or asleep at the switch go back through the doorway and say it While it may not be practical to actually go back through every doorway for instance exiting an airplane it is remarkable to see how often we are unaware All these moments of mindfulness add up You start to realize how much of life you ve missed because you have been riding around on your own thought train Increase your mindful moments and your life begins to change in some interesting ways Who knows That dream career that ideal life may be just around the corner Filed Under Featured Self Development Tagged With awareness career change enlightenment job joy mind Making Enlightened Career Choices July 29 2011 by Dee Relyea Are you making enlightened decisions about your career Are you doing work that is fulfilling and rewarding Does your current work give you an outlet to make a difference to feel alive with purpose If not you might want to consider making some changes You don t have to do a particular job work in soul deadening surroundings or be chained to a desk in a cubicle YOU have CHOICE If you want to create a different career path you need to make choices that will propel you to new actions How do you typically make decisions Are they based on Shoulds doing what you believe you should do Pleasing others doing what others want or expect you to do Fear choosing the safe route or being afraid to make changes Habit and reaction you don t even think about what you re doing you ve always done it this way Or are you consciously considering each decision and maintaining an awareness of these factors Feeling empowered to choose truly for yourself not to please others Authenticity you know who you are and choose in alignment with your core values Creative expression you have talents and skills to share and seek to express these through your work To make more enlightened conscious choices 1 Clearly define your wants and needs Get in touch with your sense of purpose Listen to your intuition Ask yourself Does this choice feel empowering or disempowering Is this decision in my highest good 2 Consider your current situation and ask yourself Why am I doing this What do I want to achieve It may be helpful for you to write down your answers and ponder them Be more conscious of how you are spending your precious time because this is your life passing by

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  • Entrepreneurship — Career Life Coaching
    are not self actualized Self actualization is achieved when we are successfully fulfilling all of our needs Maslow created a hierarchy of needs Hierarchy of Human Needs the basic needs like breathing food and water are on the bottom and self actualization is at the top In order to be completely fulfilled one must achieve self actualization When this occurs many positive characteristics emerge People become more accepting of themselves more spontaneous self reliant and independent They gain a stronger sense of integrity as well as an increased zest for life and sense of humor Creativity and curiosity increase self esteem improves and people become more altruistic humanitarian socially responsible and adaptable to change What I find most interesting about this list is that the majority of successful entrepreneurs I know embody these traits By stepping out of the world of traditional employment they became more self actualized and in turn more able to handle the challenges of entrepreneurship If we all did the things we are really capable of doing we would literally astound ourselves Thomas Edison Filed Under Self Development Starting a Business Tagged With Entrepreneurship fulfillment self actualization Thinking like an Entrepreneur September 14 2009 by Dee Relyea For most people the toughest part about leaving a job is the concern about a stable income We live in a culture that trains us from childhood to follow the rules work hard know the right answers and teachers will reward you with good grades These lessons groom us for the employee mentality Be at work on time work hard maybe you can get a good grade resulting in the reward of a raise By virtue of our jobs we live around set schedules of when to sleep eat go to work take a break go home and take vacations It is a very structured life Step out of the job world and you are suddenly free of the schedules the structure the expectations of employers and co workers The very ambiguity sends some would be entrepreneurs back to the perceived security of the J O B With the recent trend of downsizing furloughing and layoffs there is no longer security in having a job Was there ever Why not consider starting your own enterprise Use your skills and talents in a way that is not only personally satisfying but also fills a need in the marketplace One of the advantages is the ambiguity when you don t know what s coming next you are pushed to be creative to stretch your imagination and to live outside your comfort zone If you try out an idea a service or product and you don t get the results you want you get to improvise improve the design or create something different It s wonderfully empowering to use your own skills talents and abilities to turn an idea into a product or service that serves others and brings you income Not ready to leave your steady job That s okay you can always start a business on the side and see where it grows Just remember to focus on thinking like an entrepreneur You can do or be whatever you want in your own life Nothing can stop you except your own fears Don t blame anyone else you have the power to make the decision Just do it Nola Diamantopoulos Victory always starts in the head It s a state of mind It then spreads with such radiance and such affirmations that destiny can do nothing but obey Douchan Gersi Filed Under Starting a Business Tagged With empowerment Entrepreneurship self actualization Julie Julia Accidental Entrepreneurs August 12 2009 by Dee Relyea This past weekend I saw a fabulous example of following your passion the movie Julie Julia The movie is based on the true story of Julie Powell a frustrated state worker who spends her days in a cubicle taking incoming calls in the aftermath of 9 11 In search of a way to deal with her frustration and soothe her aching soul she decides rather on a whim to prepare every recipe in Julia Child s famous cookbook Mastering the Art of French Cooking She diligently works her way through the 536 recipes in 365 days and blogs about her trials and tribulations along the way In the movie we simultaneously get to view Julie s experiences in modern day New York and Julia Child s life during her years in France as she discovers her passion for cooking As Americans in Paris in the 1950 s Paul and Julia Child had a glamorous nightlife but when Paul went off to work at the embassy Julia found herself looking for something with which to fill her days After a few failed attempts at entertaining and educating herself such as a hat making class which she found boring and a bridge class with the same result she decided to attend culinary school Julia and her husband were enamored with the gustatory pleasures of French cuisine and so it seemed natural that Julia would find her joy in taking classes at the renowned Cordon Bleu cooking school She delighted in the rigors of learning to prepare French cuisine fearlessly attacking the tasks and holding her own in a class dominated by men She thought about how wonderful it would be to have a cookbook in English so that servantless Americans could enjoy the pleasures of French cooking and collaborated with two French cooks in creating a mammoth manuscript Back in the states Julia Child not only got her book published but became the acclaimed French Chef on TV introducing millions to the joy of boeuf bourguignon chocolate soufflés and the like Julia never set out to become an entrepreneur she simply pursued her passion and shared it with others Similarly Julie Powell rose to literary prominence after she was interviewed by the New York Times about her Julie Julia project blog Her story became a book and then a major motion

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  • freelance — Career Life Coaching
    social media and since she had no need for a steady paycheck she decided to do that and be a freelance writer full time Since all of her work was done via computer she was able to live anywhere so she moved to Denver It was the perfect scenario for Sally Your 30s Another client of Relyea s Bob got a computer science degree went to work at Epic where he had no trouble getting his foot through the door He loved his job until his position changed and he was required to travel frequently This was a problem because he had dogs and he was miserable with the travel aspect of his job Bob realized that his favorite thing was teaching computer skills to other people so he stared a home business doing that He needed to earn a little more so he picked up a part time job at the Apple store Addendum to this story from Dee which evolved into a full time career and where incidentally he met the love of his life and is not only fully engaged in his work he is engaged to be married The universe works in wondrous ways Your 40s Betsy had a high end marketing job at a Fortune 500 company As technology advanced and Betsy was required to carry a smart phone she found she had no respite from the office whatsoever says Relyea Betsy was a single mom with two adolescents and she was working 70 hours a week Then she heard the company was going to be bought out She came to me to create an exit strategy says Relyea Betsy completed a career assessment the MBTI which revealed her natural personality preferences and transferable skills She discovered she wanted to teach She had a master s degree in marketing but she needed to go back to school for a teaching degree When she was laid off she got a severance package which gave her the time and the money to get the education she needed She was prepared and thrilled when she got that pink slip says Relyea Today Betsy is a high school teacher and loves what she does Your 50s and 60s In middle age many people find themselves discontented with unfulfilling jobs They want to do something they are passionate about says Relyea Sometimes they have been downsized and sometimes they want to respond to an inner calling You have a right to enjoy what you do for a living says Relyea It s really not a luxury she says We don t have much time on this earth You shouldn t have to do something you don t like Often people in this age range have golden handcuffs they re held hostage by a big house or a fancy car or expensive recreation But you can choose to downsize your standard of living she says People have successfully done that to find more fulfilling work A lot of people in their

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  • fulfillment — Career Life Coaching
    What are your top 3 things you must have in your next job in order to be happy Identify potential employment opportunities Research potential employers to determine corporate or organization culture management style mission and vision Update and revise your resume to maximize getting interviews Build your network through informational interviewing attending events related to your profession joining professional associations and using social media Enhance your interviewing skills practice how you will answer difficult questions Navigate job offers negotiate your salary benefits Scenario B Career Transition into Self Employment Explore your wants and needs for career fulfillment by identifying your particular requirements How much income must you have Where and when are you willing and able to work What are your top 3 things you must have in your next job in order to be happy Analyze ways of working to determine the best fit for you For example be employed part time while building your business or writing your book or going to school etc or jumping full time into starting a business Conduct market research to be sure that your business idea is realistic Launch your business and determine your niche What is the scope of your service or product line Who benefits from what you are putting out into the marketplace Develop your marketing strategy for your business including your brand Build your network create cross referrals with colleagues who serve the same customer demographic utilize social media blogging and article writing to establish your expertise Navigate project offers draft proposals to meet customers needs determine pricing and distribution channels for your product or service In either scenario A or B you start in the same place exploring YOUR wants and needs for career fulfillment If a man does not keep pace with his companions perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer Let him step to the music he hears however measured or far away Henry David Thoreau Filed Under Career Transition Featured Starting a Business Tagged With career employment fulfillment Starting a Business The 1 Reason You Aren t Getting Hired May 20 2010 by Dee Relyea I heard from a former client recently who has been having a hard time finding work He shared his frustration about applying for 100 s of jobs not getting interviews or if he did have an interview not getting a job offer After 18 months of this he was pretty angry He proceeded to give me a litany of reasons for his negativity Let s look at these four 1 Employers are rude they won t even acknowledge that they have received my applications 2 The economy sucks no one is hiring 3 Companies won t pay me what I am worth 4 The people doing the hiring are guilty of age discrimination While these statements may have some truth to them they are undermining the candidate s chances for employment Why Because the unhappy jobseeker is blaming externals for his predicament and his negative attitude is derailing his forward motion Yup the number one reason you may not be getting hired is your attitude Let s look at each of these complaints from a more positive perspective 1 Employers are swamped with applicants and may be short staffed Imagine yourself as the hiring person being deluged with resumes many of which are poorly written hard to read and inappropriate for the position Having been in the position of screening resumes I can tell you it is an exercise in patience to review each one and make thoughtful decisions regarding which pile to put it in maybe a fit not a fit but maybe could be considered for something else and totally unqualified for the position Then you take the maybe stack and sort it down to the strongest candidates coming up with the number of candidates to be interviewed like the top 3 10 Is it reasonable to expect every person be sent an acknowledgment that their application has been received I don t think so 2 Even in economic downturns people are hiring You may just have to look harder to identify where you might fit 80 of jobs aren t advertised I encourage you to do some information interviewing to get the inside scoop on a company s culture needs and potential openings If there truly are no jobs in your field consider starting your own business Really look at your resume What else can you do with your experience education training and talent 3 What are you worth really to a potential employer In your correspondence and contact with an organization you need to stress what YOU can do for THEM not the other way around Can you save them time increase productivity save them money How will the organization benefit by hiring you 4 Although there may be age discrimination carrying it around as a chip on your shoulder is not going to help you get hired Instead of tackling the age issue emphasize your experience your knowledge the wisdom you bring and the maturity Another advantage of hiring older workers is that they tend to be reliable dependable and diligent workers Turn your attitude into thinking about what a great catch you are for some fortunate employer and see if that doesn t make a difference Bottom line put yourself in the employers role wouldn t you rather hire a candidate with a positive attitude Yeah so would I Go forward confidently energetically attacking problems expecting favorable outcomes Norman Vincent Peale Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude Thomas Jefferson More great quotes on attitude Filed Under Career Transition Featured Tagged With attitude career employment fulfillment getting hired The Key to Fulfilling Work Look Inward March 25 2010 by Dee Relyea Are you scouring want ads searching internet job sites and checking out staffing agency listings in hopes of finding your next

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  • getting hired — Career Life Coaching
    I came across some terrific inside information from professional recruiter Skip Freeman He suggests that the most challenging questions for candidates are What questions do you have And What is your salary expectation From my own experience in the staffing industry I am inclined to agree with him Let s look at the first one When the interview is about finished the typical interviewee is relieved and ready to make an exit Not surprising then that many candidates respond to the interviewers Do you have any questions you d like to ask by saying something like no I think I got a good overview of the position thanks Skip refers to this as the kiss of death for your candidacy What the interviewer wants to hear is why you should be hired You want to finish the interview expressing your value your intelligence and your ability to assert yourself Here s the answer Skip suggests Mr Ms Hiring Manager let s assume for a moment that I am your candidate of choice and that I become your next position for which you are applying It is one year from now You look back over the past year and say I made a good hire What is it that I would have had to have done over the year for you to be able to say that Talk about getting inside info Not only have you impressed the interviewer with your question you now have a better idea of what the job entails and the employer s performance expectations If you aren t comfortable with the above question here are a few others you may find beneficial to ask In six months what would the successful candidate have accomplished What is the most important and pressing problem for the new hire to tackle What would you like done differently by the next person who fills this job I noticed on the company website that your firm s mission is to How do you see the successful candidate contributing to that mission How does this department affect the company s profit How would you describe the organization s culture and personality How are risk taking and creativity rewarded How does the company recognize outstanding employees Now let s look at how to answer the second question What is your salary expectation If your inclination is to name a salary that your want stifle yourself Here is the answer Mr Freeman recommends to his clients I am very interested in this opportunity If I am your candidate of choice and in turn you are my company of choice then I know the salary will be more than fair In this instance you have let the interviewer know that salary isn t the deciding issue on whether or not you d accept the position It is also important to know what the average salary range is for the position Often the salary is not divulged in the job listing and it is up to

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  • gifts — Career Life Coaching
    the process When he is working on a project he becomes so engaged in it that he typically loses track of time The hours fly by and he finds he is energized rather than exhausted at the end of his workday Joe is perhaps doing the work that has been put in his heart as Rumi states We often think there is some profound calling to heed and that one day we will figure out what that is In reality callings don t often show up with a job title Instead of seeking that perfect career that dream job consider finding a way to create income doing those tasks you do well and love to do Megan is a mosaic artist who loves to take beautiful pieces of colored glass and make everything from bird baths to address tiles She teaches classes on mosiac making and sells her products from her home studio at shows and on the internet Take a moment make your list and listen to what your heart is telling you What do YOU love to do that you do well Get input from your friends and family You may be surprised at the talents they recognize in you See if you can come up with a list of 10 things and then look at how you may be able to generate income doing some of them More on this topic next post Everyone has a vocation talent is the call Emerson Filed Under Finding Your Passion Tagged With gifts talents Twelve Questions to Help You Find Your Calling October 20 2009 by Dee Relyea 150 years ago peoples jobs were primarily determined by what they had a talent for people worked at crafts and provided services based on their natural skills and interests In modern times most of us end up choosing careers for all sorts of reasons that have little or nothing to do with what we enjoy and are naturally good at We end up in careers that are inherently wrong fits for us and we languish in cubicles or stress out in jobs we don t like What if we got in touch with our hidden talents and found a way to utilize our natural gifts to do work that we found satisfying or even fun Here are 12 questions for you to ponder to help you discover what might become your life s work 1 What do you love to do Think about your hobbies interests recreational and volunteer activities Most of us enjoy doing things we are good at so our leisure activities can be indicators of your gifts and talents 2 Recall an event when you were so absorbed in what you were doing that you completely lost track of time What activity were you engaged in How did it make you feel 3 What do you naturally do well What actions are easy for you for example writing stories fixing things analyzing trends cooking organizing events managing money remembering

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