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  • Happy Hour? | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    your lines It s helpful to arm yourself with a litany of what Abraham calls refusal skills While there are no magic words the idea is to put others at ease while keeping the spotlight off yourself You can say I m on medication says Abraham People respect that Everyone s on medication In fact if you take antidepressants you should be aware they don t mix well with alcohol Complications range from drowsiness and dizziness to decreased effectiveness of the meds Jennifer Musselman MA MFTI who is program director for the CLARE Foundation s Conscious Recovery and has a private practice recommends a simple and polite Thank you It sounds great but I m not drinking tonight Christin offers a similar line I don t drink but please enjoy yourself Sometimes though polite disclaimers aren t enough Dan Kurtz 41 lives on Hawaii s Big Island where drinking is part of the culture he says Without drinking socializing wouldn t happen So Kurtz plays along At first he tried to explain that he didn t drink When his words fell on deaf ears he simply took the beer he was handed and took a few sips before pouring it out while no one was looking I have to keep that up socially because the attitude on the island is If you don t drink you re not one of us Kurtz reports BYO Buddy Breaking with the prevailing bottoms up culture actually can be more challenging among friends and family than in a business setting Sonja K 45 doesn t mind sipping club soda at office parties but she finds it harder to resist a beer or glass of wine during downtime with friends in North Bay Ontario After accepting the first glass she would often have a second and maybe a third leaving her feeling fuzzy and depressed the next day When you re heading into a situation that tends to test your resolve support and reinforcement is absolutely critical says psychiatrist Rajiv Juneja MD MS an addictions specialist in New York City It s easier to wave away that second or first round when you ve got someone at your side who s on your side Abraham recommends making an agreement with your spouse or plus one ahead of time so that you re accountable for imbibing just what you ve decided to drink and no more If you re flying solo you ve still got social media in your pocket literally Brian will discreetly text friends when he s feeling in need of moral support Just say no There may be times Musselman says when the decision to taper off or quit drinking leads to a social shakeup If your friends can t accept the limits you ve set for yourself she says then redefining your relationships is probably necessary and the activities you enjoy together may need to change After Kevin stopped drinking invitations from party hearty friends continued to flow freely but unfortunately so did the liquor at their gatherings Drinking was just such a huge part of their lives he says I would think I really miss talking with them but I can t have people around me who are just constantly slamming drinks If you re flying solo you ve still got social media in your pocket literally Kevin keeps in touch with those old friends on the phone and Facebook As for his social life he still sees friends who are more moderate in their habits and has expanded his recreational repertoire to include ballroom dancing playing trivia games and traveling When family get togethers involve too much liquid merriment or just being around your family makes you long for an open bar it may be time for a similar approach Sonja calls and emails her mother and siblings but put Christmas visits on hold five years ago so that she could enjoy a low stress day with her husband and son Less extreme options include setting a firm departure time in advance or staying in a hotel to create some boundaries Christin notes that the holidays are uniquely stressful but it s easy to feel the strain any time you need to weigh the benefits of fitting in with the drinking crowd against your overall quality of life His survival advice holds true across the board If you need to say no say no because it s really important to stay physically and mentally balanced and intact Sidebar A Self soothing survival kit Before you pour yourself a drink because you re stressed or depressed consider these healthier self care alternatives Bait and switch The best way to stop one behavior is to replace it with another If your brain is trained to think of 5 30 p m as the start of happy hour for example consciously choose another specific habit you d like to cultivate and plug it into your phone or calendar for that time slot Then do it This creates a new pathway in your neurons that will strengthen with repetition Find your calm center Practicing even a few simple yoga poses especially ones designed for relaxation helps release stress Yoga soothes a racing mind centers and grounds you says Jennifer Musselman MA Or experiment with mindfulness techniques that allow you to observe and accept emotions thus reducing the need to numb them Plus meditation releases the feel good chemical dopamine Soothe your senses Indulge your need for touch by getting a massage stroking a pet or relaxing in a bubble bath Satisfy your taste buds by sipping cider or savoring a small piece of chocolate Stop and smell a lightly scented candle or favorite cologne Watch the sunset or a funny movie Listen to relaxing music or snow blanketed silence Think again A snub at the office an argument with a sibling or spouse a rude waiter we frequently underestimate how heavily these interactions weigh on our mood So if you re feeling blue psychiatrist

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  • Buying trouble | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    Your E Mail Your Remark Friend s Name Separate multiple entries with a comma Maximum 5 entries Friend s E Mail Separate multiple entries with a comma Maximum 5 entries Image Verification Loading Tagged with shopping spending About the author esperanza Has 732 Articles RELATED ARTICLES When sadness leads to shopping August 4 2014 8 02 am Columnist Barbara Boughton shares her experiences with using shopping as a cope technique By Barbara Boughton It was a hot and breezeless summer CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing Read more February 1 2015 2 12 pm Winter 2015 TAKE THIS TO THE BANK Stressing out about finances These strategies can help you take control of your wallet and your worries by Kelly James Enger Read more SoundOFF MOMS DEPRESSION What is it like to be a mom with depression What is hardest for you What helps you cope CLICK HERE TO ANSWER CURRENT RESEARCH Shake It Off Not So Easy for People with Depression New Brain Research Suggests 2 27 2015 Harsh winter brings some psychological benefits says UB researcher 2 24 2015 Study Linking Suicidal Behavior Psychotic Experiences May Yield Strategies to Help Prevent Suicide Attempts 2 24 2015 Suicide Risk Falls Substantially After Talk Therapy 11 20 2014 A New Test Measures Analytical Thinking Linked to Depression Fueling the Idea That Depression May Be a Form of Adaptation 11 19 2014 CONNECT esperanza s Hope Write a Letter to the Editor SoundOFF Forum Home About Us My Account Checkout Professional Writers Advertising Contact Us Partners Portal Cart Subscribe Back to Top Copyright 2015 Hope to Cope All Rights Reserved Newsletter Signup esperanza Magazine s e newsletter offers the latest research news healthy lifestyle features and inspirational profiles for our depression and anxiety community If you are a human and are seeing this field please leave it blank Fields marked with a are required Afghanistan Albania Algeria American Samoa Andorra Angola Anguilla Antarctica Antigua And Barbuda Argentina Armenia Aruba Australia Austria Azerbaijan Bahamas Bahrain Bangladesh Barbados Belarus Belgium Belize Benin Bermuda Bhutan Bolivia Bosnia And Herzegowina Botswana Bouvet Island Brazil British Indian Ocean Territory Brunei Darussalam Bulgaria Burkina Faso Burundi Cambodia Cameroon Canada Cape Verde Cayman Islands Central African Republic Chad Chile China Christmas Island Cocos Keeling Islands Colombia Comoros Congo Congo The Democratic Republic Of The Cook Islands Costa Rica Cote D Ivoire Croatia Local Name Hrvatska

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  • Buying trouble | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    spend her entire paycheck on dining out sometimes treating friends I would buy three or four things off the menu just to spend money says Diane Next Diane began splurging on clothes shoes and knick knacks I d feel bad but the next paycheck I d do it again she says Eventually the teenager was spending about 1 000 a month and dodging people she owed money to Pam has been spared insolvency because her husband earns a comfortable living However responsibilities such as housework and cooking sometimes get neglected Sometimes I leave early in the morning to shop and return late at night and dinner s not on the table says Pam who takes medication for her depression Her overspending also leads to clutter all around her home Compulsive shopping can go hand in hand with hoarding an emotional need to cling to belongings If I could only buy what I need I wouldn t have so much stuff lying around she says There are some things in my pantry I know I ll never use but I won t throw them out because they were a good deal The smiled upon addiction Experts are divided as to whether compulsive shopping is a form of obsessive compulsive disorder an impulse control disorder similar to substance abuse or gambling or just an extreme form of consumerism One distinction is that impulsive shoppers typically find their pursuit pleasurable at least initially while people with OCD are driven by fear and anxiety says Swinson There has been little research into what causes compulsive shopping but existing evidence points to several factors experts say There is speculation that the areas of the brain that regulate pleasure and reward and involve the neurotransmitter dopamine may be involved says Black Brain centers that mediate decision making may also play a role While compulsive shopping tends to run in families it is unknown whether this reflects a genetic component or learned behavior says Black It s estimated to affect between 2 percent to 8 percent of adults in the United States Onset typically occurs in the late teens or early 20s and the disorder tends to be chronic Some experts including Black say the condition predominantly affects women but Lane Benson says she treats almost the same number of men as women Given the devastating consequences that can follow overspending she says compulsive shopping should be taken more seriously It is the smiled upon addiction because it fuels our economy Yet it is a chronic issue that really deserves medical attention she says Even the medical community is divided According to Black the condition is not taught in most medical schools In any event he adds compulsive shoppers may not seek professional help because they don t want to stop the behavior You really have to see the real downside of the disorder before you can engage in treatment he says Getting help Some compulsive shoppers who turn to treatment are prescribed SSRI antidepressants but no

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  • Spending | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    Anxiety Research Books Symptoms Addiction Anger Anxiety Emotional Numbness Fear Guilt Irritability Low Self Esteem Pessimism Physical Symptoms Sadness Sleep Problems Stress Substance Abuse Treatment Anxiety and Depression Recovery Treatment Diet Doctors Exercise Hospitalization Humor Medication Meditation Mindfulness Peer Support Pets Animals Psychotherapy Sleep Stress Management Suicide Symptoms of Depression Anxiety Weight Loss or Gain Talk Therapy Relationships Personal Relationships and Anxiety Depression Caregivers Children Dating Family Forgiveness Friends Marriage Parenting School Education Spouse Partners Stigma Hope Celebrities Hope Essays Hope Harmony Spirituality Inspiration Motivation Religion Faith Spirituality Blog Forum Log In Forum Home Topics Discussions Members Community Blog Forum Associations Write to Us SoundOFF Magazine Current Issue Archived Issues Customer Service Print Digital Subscriptions Renewal Subscriptions Gift Subscriptions Buy Past Issues Frequently Asked Questions Digital Subscriber Access Subscribe Home spending Buying trouble By esperanza May 10 2010 12 37 pm When shop til you drop is all too real compulsive spenders pay a heavy price Read more CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing Read more February 1 2015 2 12 pm Winter 2015 TAKE THIS TO THE BANK Stressing out about finances These strategies can help you take control of your wallet and your worries by

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  • Naughty, Nice and Nicotine | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    His work has appeared on CBS NBC and in USA Today The recipient of over twenty honors including first in the nation from the Associated Press Sports Editors and the John Fischetti Finalist Award will preview his first graphic novel exclusively at hopetocope com Drawing Strength is the true story of synchronicity creativity and recovery To find out more please visit www nychay com RELATED ARTICLES How Anger Gets A Bad Rap January 21 2016 12 01 am Are you someone who thinks it is bad to get angry Maybe you know someone like this Over the past 23 years I have worked You Don t Have to Accept Every Invitation to Fight June 11 2015 12 01 am I often find myself thinking about previous patients from the hospital wondering how they re doing I recently had one come to mind thought Men Depression NHL Goalie Clint Malarchuck February 1 2015 9 53 am The former hockey goalie shares his story on confronting his depression and anxiety By Linda Childers There was a time when the face Let Go of Frozen Turkeys November 26 2014 3 38 pm Last time I mentioned moving cross country Naturally this drastic change can trigger episodes of um instability The new location is ideal the Book Categories All Books Anxiety Depression Children For Loved Ones Living Well Memoirs Treatment CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing Read more February 1 2015 2 12 pm Winter 2015 TAKE THIS TO THE BANK Stressing out about finances These strategies can help you take control of your wallet and your worries by Kelly James Enger Read more SoundOFF MOMS DEPRESSION What is it like to be a mom with depression What is hardest for you What helps you cope CLICK HERE TO ANSWER CURRENT RESEARCH Shake It Off Not So Easy for People with Depression New Brain Research Suggests 2 27 2015 Harsh winter brings some psychological benefits says UB researcher 2 24 2015 Study Linking Suicidal Behavior Psychotic Experiences May Yield Strategies to Help Prevent Suicide Attempts 2 24 2015 Suicide Risk Falls Substantially After Talk Therapy 11 20 2014 A New Test Measures Analytical Thinking Linked to Depression Fueling the Idea That Depression May Be a Form of Adaptation 11 19 2014 CONNECT esperanza s Hope Write a Letter to the Editor SoundOFF Forum Home About Us My Account Checkout Professional Writers

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  • Naughty, Nice and Nicotine | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    hired and paid this company to transport our belongings cross country As of this posting our clothing furniture and priceless mementos are still M I A The company has not returned phone calls emails or smoke signals in over a month My good wife is still surviving on three changes of clothes but her endless optimism is fading This deplorable situation has devolved into a CSI episode and police are prepared to enter Grinch s cave to retrieve stolen property and dignity Reboot the Holidays Tis the season for itchy triggers Family issues can resurface like those lovely holiday sweaters Each problem is as unique as a snowflake and will rip open old wounds if we re not careful So instead of filling bags of coal walk in a different pair of boots Soup kitchens homeless shelters and children s hospitals could sure use a hand and more importantly your heart If we navigate this nativity season for the right reasons and not for what Madison Avenue tells us it just might be the most rewarding one yet Stocking Snuffers According to recent studies nearly half of all smokers suffer with some form of mental illness Worse yet life expectancy

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  • Holidays | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    Anxiety and Depression Recovery Treatment Diet Doctors Exercise Hospitalization Humor Medication Meditation Mindfulness Peer Support Pets Animals Psychotherapy Sleep Stress Management Suicide Symptoms of Depression Anxiety Weight Loss or Gain Talk Therapy Relationships Personal Relationships and Anxiety Depression Caregivers Children Dating Family Forgiveness Friends Marriage Parenting School Education Spouse Partners Stigma Hope Celebrities Hope Essays Hope Harmony Spirituality Inspiration Motivation Religion Faith Spirituality Blog Forum Log In Forum Home Topics Discussions Members Community Blog Forum Associations Write to Us SoundOFF Magazine Current Issue Archived Issues Customer Service Print Digital Subscriptions Renewal Subscriptions Gift Subscriptions Buy Past Issues Frequently Asked Questions Digital Subscriber Access Subscribe Home holidays Naughty Nice and Nicotine By Scott Nychay December 15 2014 12 20 pm Movers and Takers Last time I mentioned a moving company guaranteed to make Santa s fecal list RECAP On November 3rd we hired and paid this Read more Surviving holiday stress By Russ Small November 5 2012 10 22 am All the temptations and to do tasks this time of year can trip up any recovery plan Here are tips to help Read more CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing Read more February 1 2015 2 12 pm

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  • Volunteer | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    Emotional Numbness Fear Guilt Irritability Low Self Esteem Pessimism Physical Symptoms Sadness Sleep Problems Stress Substance Abuse Treatment Anxiety and Depression Recovery Treatment Diet Doctors Exercise Hospitalization Humor Medication Meditation Mindfulness Peer Support Pets Animals Psychotherapy Sleep Stress Management Suicide Symptoms of Depression Anxiety Weight Loss or Gain Talk Therapy Relationships Personal Relationships and Anxiety Depression Caregivers Children Dating Family Forgiveness Friends Marriage Parenting School Education Spouse Partners Stigma Hope Celebrities Hope Essays Hope Harmony Spirituality Inspiration Motivation Religion Faith Spirituality Blog Forum Log In Forum Home Topics Discussions Members Community Blog Forum Associations Write to Us SoundOFF Magazine Current Issue Archived Issues Customer Service Print Digital Subscriptions Renewal Subscriptions Gift Subscriptions Buy Past Issues Frequently Asked Questions Digital Subscriber Access Subscribe Home Volunteer Naughty Nice and Nicotine By Scott Nychay December 15 2014 12 20 pm Movers and Takers Last time I mentioned a moving company guaranteed to make Santa s fecal list RECAP On November 3rd we hired and paid this Read more CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing Read more February 1 2015 2 12 pm Winter 2015 TAKE THIS TO THE BANK Stressing out about finances These strategies can help you take control

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