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  • Reader Response | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    By esperanza November 4 2013 8 12 am Readers respond Do you have an art outlet and how does it help you in coping with depression or anxiety Read more SOUNDOFF Tech support By esperanza August 5 2013 10 55 am SOCIAL MEDIA and the INTERNET can be useful tools in coping with depression and anxiety How do you use them and what has been most Read more SOUNDOFF Connections By esperanza May 6 2013 9 58 am DEPRESSION and LONELINESS often go hand in hand What actions and attitudes help you reach out and reconnect when you feel isolated LONELINESS IS Read more SOUNDOFF Perfectly good advice By esperanza February 1 2013 9 36 am Perfectionism can push us to achieve but it can have a dark side too How does perfectionism affect you and what tools or techniques help you cope Read more SOUNDOFF Parenting Depression By esperanza November 5 2012 10 35 am The demands and challenges of parenting aren t made any easier by depressive symptoms like fatigue withdrawal and irritability How have depression and parenting interacted for you and how have you coped Read more Bruce Almighty Bruce Springsteen By esperanza November 5 2012 10 17 am When a guy as famous as The Boss admits to needing talk therapy people pay attention Read more SoundOFF Rebuilding Self Worth By esperanza August 6 2012 10 58 am When depression hinders your ability to get things done self confidence can suffer How did you rebuild a sense of self worth Read more SOUNDOFF Major life changes By esperanza May 7 2012 10 23 am The stress and emotions associated with major life changes can trigger or worsen depression and anxiety Has that happened to you and what did you do about it Read more SOUNDOFF Women

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  • SoundOFF! Rebuilding Self-Worth | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    the things I did do and I congratulated myself on that J K TORONTO ON WHEN I WAS too depressed to even move off of the couch I took up crochet My hands were busy and I produced interesting useful things That gave me a sense of accomplishment with a minimum amount of exertion since I had just enough energy to move from my bed to the couch to sit and watch TV Stephanie via Facebook I have a little tablet of paper saying I will do one thing today I fill out one of those each day with just one thing to accomplish it can be something I m good at then I get some self worth from completing at least one thing each day If it is an okay day then I might go on to other tasks but it s nice knowing I can stop at one and be good with that J V CUMMING GA I REALIZE THAT structured time is important so when my church advertised for a part time office volunteer with computer skills I contacted the office manager and he was delighted to sign me up Being in an atmosphere with very kind helpful people makes a huge difference My depression isn t cured but I have more confidence and realize people appreciate me and I have marketable skills Name Withheld EL CAJON CA GO TO some kind of support group where you feel supported and a sense of belonging K HOMESTEAD FL EVEN THOUGH I don t like this part of me I still have to love myself I remind myself that if I weren t me I would like me I wouldn t seek out the love and kinship of others if I didn t think I deserved it in some way So I take a moment to think about something I like about myself that I want other people to see and I try to amplify it B H STERLING HEIGHTS MI FORCE YOURSELF to keep doing or start to do again something you know you do well I perform poetry and I was on a hiatus With a supportive friend I went to open mics again and shared my work Slowly slowly it helped me regain some of my confidence and sense of self Sometimes it helped to read poetry from when I had not been depressed Name Withheld SILVER SPRING MD Tagged with Reader Response About the author esperanza Has 732 Articles 1 COMMENT Margo Charles September 2 2014 Reply I was suffering with low self esteem and severe depression for a long time With the great help of a mentor which I obtained through the program I m attending my sense of self worth reappeared He taught me how to believe in myself again by letting me use my own discretion in doing different projects This built up my confidence to such a high level that I am now able to think things through much clearer and

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  • SOUNDOFF! Connections | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    also knows from experience that when I want to be alone that s OK Try to find someone who has walked in your shoes They will listen talk and even push you when needed because they have been there W P H via facebook WHEN I M DEPRESSED I avoid social situations because I don t want to bring people down That s when I turn to my support group where I know I ll be understood and not judged I know getting out of the house and connecting interacting with others is important when I m depressed so it s just a matter of making myself do it A K HOUSTON TX WHEN I AM FEELING depressed I usually don t want to talk to anyone At the same time I know that when I do reach out I feel better I often send text messages or emails when I don t feel like I have the energy to talk on the phone or get together Usually just doing that gets me moving in the right direction I will plan lunch dates or coffee so that I look forward to it but don t feel like it s more than I can handle at the moment C O PITTSBURGH PA WHEN I FEEL LONELY I find it helpful to get out of the house and be around if not with other people I walk my dog where other people are doing the same thing or go to the library Also I volunteer One place I volunteer is a nonprofit shop that sells handcrafted items from all over the world There are chances to interact with customers during my shift and meet other like minded folks who work with me Name withheld AUSTIN TX ISOLATION IS SOMETHING I struggle with during depression First and foremost I call my doctor and tell her what is happening Then I make myself call my friends and family for support I go on long walks I take my kids to the park I just do something to get out of my house I have to remember that the depression and the isolation will not last forever if I do something about it P W SAN RAMON CA I HAVE A HARD TIME asking for help and when I m depressed I assume I m hurting other people by being around them I combat this by listening to someone who s having a hard time When I focus on someone else I forget to be self conscious about how I m hurting them because I m actively doing the opposite It s also a great relief to stop thinking about my own problems for a while B A MADISON WI Tagged with loneliness Reader Response About the author esperanza Has 732 Articles LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message RELATED ARTICLES SoundOFF Resilience You August

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  • Power to the positive | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    sometimes it takes all the methods to get past negative situations that happen beyond your own choice or control It was nice to have all these methods together in one place because it is good to know that if one method fails at that moment then you can always try another one RELATED ARTICLES Kick pessimism to the curb August 5 2015 8 30 am Six ways to get rid of your negativity and encourage a positive attitude By Ashley Trexler What makes depression so depressing The waves Be a Mental Health Superhero for Your Family and Friends July 6 2015 11 06 pm Every once in a while I get overwhelmingly impressed with something I see hear or otherwise experience Positive remembrances and feelings linger within me for Imagine that May 4 2015 2 00 am Use visualization methods to jump start change by picturing the new life you want By Robin L Flanigan You don t need a genie to SoundOFF Resilience You August 4 2014 8 10 am The Question Resilience is the ability to thrive despite adversity How have you weathered challenges and difficulties in your life What traits and skills CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing Read more February 1 2015 2 12 pm Winter 2015 TAKE THIS TO THE BANK Stressing out about finances These strategies can help you take control of your wallet and your worries by Kelly James Enger Read more SoundOFF MOMS DEPRESSION What is it like to be a mom with depression What is hardest for you What helps you cope CLICK HERE TO ANSWER CURRENT RESEARCH Shake It Off Not So Easy for People with Depression New Brain Research Suggests 2 27 2015 Harsh winter brings some psychological benefits says UB researcher 2 24 2015 Study Linking Suicidal Behavior Psychotic Experiences May Yield Strategies to Help Prevent Suicide Attempts 2 24 2015 Suicide Risk Falls Substantially After Talk Therapy 11 20 2014 A New Test Measures Analytical Thinking Linked to Depression Fueling the Idea That Depression May Be a Form of Adaptation 11 19 2014 CONNECT esperanza s Hope Write a Letter to the Editor SoundOFF Forum Home About Us My Account Checkout Professional Writers Advertising Contact Us Partners Portal Cart Subscribe Back to Top Copyright 2015 Hope to Cope All Rights Reserved Newsletter Signup esperanza Magazine s e newsletter offers the latest research news healthy

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  • Power to the positive | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    to spend some time expressing thanks for the things I m able to do and share and I also try to take a moment to visualize a positive future in which I achieve my goals Confronting the worst case scenario saps it of much of its anxiety inducing power You can also try to deliberately recognize experiences you enjoy which Rick Hanson calls taking in the good He advises focusing on positive moments as a way to reformat your brain away from its negativity bias When you find yourself enjoying a laugh smiling in appreciation or experiencing deep happiness you can train yourself to recognize the moment and take in the good he says Try to soak in those positive feelings like a sunbath for at least 30 seconds and that will reinforce that neural pathway of pleasure in your brain allowing you to have more and deeper experiences of pleasure as the practice becomes more regular for you Travis 35 from Alberta found solace in this kind of mindful embrace of the positive when he was in the grip of depression Again learning to recognize corrosive thought patterns was the first step When you find yourself enjoying a laugh smiling in appreciation or experiencing deep happiness you can train yourself to recognize the moment and take the good Being aware stepping back from my thoughts and asking Was that a good thought Will it help me to think that way or is it going to hurt me thinking that way allowed me to transform my negativity he reflects Travis says that with several weeks of practice he was able to use a method of breathing and meditation to change his mood into a neutral peaceful state and then into joy I would be going to work and I would tell myself that I don t want to be here that I don t want to do this But then I would put my hand over my heart and breathe in sending myself love and positive energy beautiful flowers or sunshine and imagine those entering my heart and neutralizing the negative thoughts he explains Thanks to that exercise Travis says he would be able to quickly transition into a productive day Suspend judgment Another approach to transforming the brain s negativity bias derives from an Asian religious framework that encourages us to refrain from judging external circumstances as either positive or negative Srikumar Rao PhD a former business school professor who has written books on creativity and personal mastery sees this as even more powerful than a practice of deliberately cultivating optimism or positive thinking Embedded in the notion of positive thinking is the thought that something bad has happened he explains There is a judgment inherent in the term We all make snap judgments all the time you miss a train it s a bad thing You get fired from your job it s a tragedy Then if you re trying to use positive thinking you somehow have to

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  • Positivity | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    Children Dating Family Forgiveness Friends Marriage Parenting School Education Spouse Partners Stigma Hope Celebrities Hope Essays Hope Harmony Spirituality Inspiration Motivation Religion Faith Spirituality Blog Forum Log In Forum Home Topics Discussions Members Community Blog Forum Associations Write to Us SoundOFF Magazine Current Issue Archived Issues Customer Service Print Digital Subscriptions Renewal Subscriptions Gift Subscriptions Buy Past Issues Frequently Asked Questions Digital Subscriber Access Subscribe Home positivity Be a Mental Health Superhero for Your Family and Friends By Owen July 6 2015 11 06 pm Every once in a while I get overwhelmingly impressed with something I see hear or otherwise experience Positive remembrances and feelings linger within me for Read more Power to the positive By Jessica Kraft April 17 2014 5 58 pm Prone to pessimism We have some creative ways to help you transform your negative thinking By Jessica C Kraft The common understanding of Read more Worth fighting for By esperanza August 6 2012 10 37 am SELF WORTH Depression corrodes your self confidence Low self esteem worsens depression Two good reasons to learn how to build yourself back up Shari M believed that happiness would come when she reached a certain rung on the corporate ladder To get there she logged 70 hours per week as an IT project manager often forgoing sleep to meet deadlines Read more CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5

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  • Power to the positive | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    Try to soak in those positive feelings like a sunbath for at least 30 seconds and that will reinforce that neural pathway of pleasure in your brain allowing you to have more and deeper experiences of pleasure as the practice becomes more regular for you Travis 35 from Alberta found solace in this kind of mindful embrace of the positive when he was in the grip of depression Again learning to recognize corrosive thought patterns was the first step When you find yourself enjoying a laugh smiling in appreciation or experiencing deep happiness you can train yourself to recognize the moment and take the good Being aware stepping back from my thoughts and asking Was that a good thought Will it help me to think that way or is it going to hurt me thinking that way allowed me to transform my negativity he reflects Travis says that with several weeks of practice he was able to use a method of breathing and meditation to change his mood into a neutral peaceful state and then into joy I would be going to work and I would tell myself that I don t want to be here that I don t want to do this But then I would put my hand over my heart and breathe in sending myself love and positive energy beautiful flowers or sunshine and imagine those entering my heart and neutralizing the negative thoughts he explains Thanks to that exercise Travis says he would be able to quickly transition into a productive day Suspend judgment Another approach to transforming the brain s negativity bias derives from an Asian religious framework that encourages us to refrain from judging external circumstances as either positive or negative Srikumar Rao PhD a former business school professor who has written books on creativity and personal mastery sees this as even more powerful than a practice of deliberately cultivating optimism or positive thinking Embedded in the notion of positive thinking is the thought that something bad has happened he explains There is a judgment inherent in the term We all make snap judgments all the time you miss a train it s a bad thing You get fired from your job it s a tragedy Then if you re trying to use positive thinking you somehow have to spin these experiences completely around But now I generally try to focus on what s under my control and what isn t He instead advises not rushing to judgment at all What happens if you don t label your experiences when they happen Since you only suffer when you label events as bad your suffering never begins and you don t have to use any kind of technique or positive thinking to transform your judgment of that experience he says Maybe missing that train allows you to strike up a conversation with someone on the platform who can be helpful in your life Or getting fired from your job ultimately leads you to an even better position I would put my hand over my heart and breathe in sending myself love and positive energy beautiful flowers or sunshine Rao advocates remaining neutral about what we habitually label as setbacks because more often than not these events ultimately present us with opportunities to improve ourselves or develop more resiliency He also encourages individuals not to define themselves solely in terms of results and outcomes because this primes the pump for negativity After all there will always be times when we fail to reach a goal There is an alternative Rao says Don t invest in the outcome invest in the process Confront the worst In his recent book The Antidote Happiness for People Who Can t Stand Positive Thinking British journalist Oliver Burkeman presents another alternative to positive thinking His take which derives from the ancient Stoic philosophers involves deliberately confronting painful emotions in order to fully accept and resolve them In order to be truly happy we might actually need to be willing to experience more negative emotions or at the very least to learn to stop running quite so hard from them he says If you stop to think about how badly things might go you generally find that things are not as tragic as they first appear Confronting the worst case scenario saps it of much of its anxiety inducing power Tibetan Buddhists have codified this approach into a practice called tonglen in which individuals visualize taking on their own suffering or the suffering of others while breathing in then releasing it on the out breath Pema Chödrön an American Tibetan Buddhist nun regularly teaches the meditative practice as a means of dealing with depression and anxiety While it may seem counterintuitive to deliberately invite in what we consider to be negative emotions the theory here is that acknowledging our pain and suffering actually permits us to gain some distance from the emotions In tonglen practice when we see or feel suffering we breathe in with the notion of completely feeling it accepting it and owning it Chödrön says Then when you exhale you are radiating compassion loving kindness freshness and anything that encourages relaxation and openness Choose to change The key to all these approaches is to gain awareness of how your thoughts translate into your emotions and begin to insert some contemplative space into that process Then you can choose how you react whether your inclination is to deliberately cultivate an optimistic response refrain from judging your experience or meditate deliberately on suffering in order to release it Tugboat captain Erick 43 of New York says that before he began counseling for depression he would often get angry over minor irritations or lose his temper with colleagues then end up feeling terrible about himself But now I generally try to focus just on what s under my control and what isn t Erick says I can t do anything about certain situations but in my own mind if I m

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  • Be a Mental Health Superhero for Your Family and Friends | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    her No one was on her side She expressed deep appreciation for the therapists and the adult leaders in her church youth groups who showed her they cared about her She could tell they were on her side Her dear stepfather received her highest accolades He is her superhero So when I see parents say and do things for their young children that are in the opposite direction it thrills me I think I appreciate the tremendously positive impact on mental health This is an area where those of us really know about depression and anxiety can be superhero parents And it extends wider than that All of us have opportunities to express gratitude and praise to others Further we can control our tongues when we are thoughtlessly inclined to say something negative Each of us can really make a difference in the lives of other individuals Each of us with some extra thought and effort can be a superhero for our family members and friends Tagged with anxiety appreciation Depression helping others interpersonal skills parenting positivity Teaching children About the author Owen Has 26 Articles Owen Ashton is author of the book Rising Above Fog A Riveting True Story of Personal Triumph a memoir of his journey from a locked down hospital psychiatric ward for major depressive episodes when he was 18 to recovery and advocacy Recognized as an engaging and humorous inspirational speaker he has given keynote speeches and other presentations on mental health advocacy at business and mental health conferences and other events from Washington D C to his home state of Utah Now well into his second career as a mental health advocate he is a CPA and previously was in the senior financial management of AT T NEXTEL and other organizations located in the New York City Chicago and Salt Lake City areas He also was with Big Four accounting firms including KPMG He s on the board of directors of NAMI Utah and the National Speakers Association Mountain West chapter He and Becky his wife of forty years are the parents of seven children and are now empty nesters His website OwenAshton com LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message RELATED ARTICLES Managing Depression and Living Well February 10 2016 11 01 am Through Veterans own voices Veterans have the chance to hear from trusted and credible sources other Veterans like themselves In this video hear Veterans share their Appreciating the Compassion Fatigue and Vicarious Trauma Experienced by Therapists February 2 2016 12 35 am The long row of 80 motorcycle police officers in a two wide formation was followed by a black hearse and a black limousine We passed them Douglas M Duncan The Politician s Courageous Depression Disclosure February 1 2016 2 52 pm In his 24 year career in public office including three terms as the top elected official in Maryland

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