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  • Viewpoint: Learning to Help Yourself | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    the ditch As I waited for the tow truck an epiphany struck I was supposed to be here where my friends were Staying with my parents would kill my soul I had to do something to take care of myself I researched the meds the psychiatrist had prescribed me and returned to my original family doctor the one who seven years before had diagnosed my depression as a simple virus For the first time in my life of passive acceptance I told the doctor what I needed a higher dose of my medication I showed her the research I d done and explained that of all the drugs previous doctors had prescribed it had always taken the highest dose to see even minimal effects For the first time I stood up for myself I was rewarded with a slow increase in my dose of medication up to the level I d asked for The experience taught me that being assertive was actually a good thing and I started to practice it more often in baby steps of course Since that day I ve earned the respect of my doctors for my knowledge and insights and for my willingness to stand up for what I need They understood that I alone would choose when I felt comfortable reducing my dosage After a year of counseling I finally did Doctors may be the ones who diagnose us and prescribe our meds but as patients we stand to lose or gain the most by their decisions Our input is vital in the research we do the tests we insist upon and the strategies we ask to try After years of searching and trying everything wrong I finally found my answer There was no magic pill and no magic doctor The magic was me standing up for myself Jenny Stamos is a freelance writer researcher and editor in Kitchener Ontario She writes about health nutrition psychology well being work money and love for magazines such as Self Shape Glamour Women s Health Redbook and Prevention Visit her on the web at jennystamos com Tagged with confidence Doctors medicine therapists About the author esperanza Has 732 Articles LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message RELATED ARTICLES Self Kindness Starts and Ends with You December 15 2014 11 30 am Be kind Everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle John Watson When looking for a quote to begin my blog piece this Attitude of Expectancy November 17 2014 11 04 am Having seen and felt the end you have filled the means to the realization of the end Thomas Troward This week in my Shattering Broken Records November 10 2014 12 11 pm You do not need to pay attention to those voices within you that create pain or make you feel less competent smart or able Finishing Strong Takes Razor Focus October 20 2014

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  • When It's Not Just Nerves | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    anxiety With GAD it s not unusual to have panic attacks while social anxiety may include features of OCD PTSD frequently brings along its unwelcome cousin panic disorder Unwelcome thoughts can stick like glue Taylor says Ironically the steps you take to block them with their accompanying psychological significance actually become reminders They keep returning to your consciousness the exact opposite of your goal Like it or not he says that s the way our human brains are designed Inside and out If you re contemplating psychotherapy for your disorder you may be introduced to the integrative model which is the latest trend For many years explains Pass every analyst felt he was a hammer and every patient was a nail yet one size did not realistically fit all Now therapists use techniques borrowed from each of the theoretical psychotherapy models that best constitute the patient s recipe taking a pinch from disciplines like behavior therapy cognitive behavior therapy and interpersonal and psychodynamic therapies Pass also successfully implements relaxation training guided visual imagery and self hypnosis as treatment protocols All may be used in combination in a very synergistic way so patients shouldn t be discouraged he says Most anxiety disorders may definitely be treated and successfully managed he reminds us although not all anxiety disorders can be completely cured Disorders have roots These are indeed stressful times says Pass and none of us is immune insulated or cushioned from them Yet when anxiety disorders affect our ability to relax and they compromise attention concentration and ultimately quality of life it s time to take action Research shows that symptoms are initially manifest around critical life events for example when children go to school leave home to start a job or when tragedy occurs Anxiety also carries a very strong genetic component Tommy s father for instance suffered panic attacks as do his two daughters now and he believes responses are also learned I try never to tell the children be careful Instead I encourage them to have fun he says Physiologically if a family member responded to a certain medication genetics suggest the same will be true of a relative or conversely if that person had side effects to a medication the relative is not going to respond as well either says Pass The brain plays a very important role in the way anxiety disorders manifest and respond to treatment We know it is influenced by genetics and one s environment so we manage the brain with psychological and pharmacological treatment and intervention which should include the most recent and sophisticated developments in drug therapy Besides taking advantage of consistent advancements in health care resources we can also help ourselves Yes it s perfectly okay and not too egocentric for this to be all about you as you take charge of your own piece of the treatment pie Our bodies when stressed have no place to turn but inwards observes Ross who advises doing more to give anxiety a place to go In addition to breathing aerobics and stress management classes yoga and meditation also help encourage that much needed sense of control So eat sleep and exercise correctly while resisting the temptation to self medicate In so doing you ll provide yourself a welcome sense of self mastery As with any life challenge however bumps in the road are bound to occur No one says the trip to controlling anxiety disorders will always be easy something a resilient Thompson understands as he navigates his continuing recovery I tell myself This panic disorder is just a disease None of this is real I am stronger than it is he says Inside of me is Superman Sometimes I just can t find him Sidebar Tommy T 60 Criminal lawyer Port Allen LA DIAGNOSED Panic disorder at 35 decent treatment mid 40s WHAT IT S LIKE Symptoms for me began around age 12 or 13 When I was young I would say I don t feel good take me home I d get really quiet In the Army I went to a psychiatrist who said Grow up and be a man Now I look in the mirror Am I really there It s a feeling of detachment more than of sweating or a pounding heart I am aware of my breathing I have multiple unidentifiable triggers when I perceive there s danger Driving long distances bothers me and then I fear a panic attack becoming tense staying on guard I would never want anyone to know I m having a panic attack or try to help me Don t question me That makes it worse MANAGEMENT STRATEGY I ve had different kinds of therapy which is helpful but it can be slow and expensive especially if insurance doesn t cover it I take two different types of medication now an SSRI and an anxiolytic drug Relaxation is an excellent skill I sit in a chair and get quiet I used to listen to a tape of the seashore and ringing buoy bells I used to imagine I was taking a ride down a big river which gave me a very pleasant experience I used biofeedback I had a tape made of leaving my house and driving to Baton Rouge and when I hit a stress point I d stop the tape and relax enough to stop the machine from beeping then continue the tape Or I ll do silly things like look in the mirror if I m getting stressed More than anything I tell myself the truth All the power of the universe is within me and no matter where I am that power is there also I tell myself home is right there wherever you are The goal is to learn that and really believe it I haven t gotten to that point yet completely but sometimes it does help Sidebar Cecil K 68 Commercial real estate Broker Charlotte NC DIAGNOSED OCD at 46 GAD at 58 HISTORY I

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  • Life lessons: Social anxiety? No sweat! | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    with it Standard strategies include deep breathing positive affirmations and reality check questions like What s the worst thing that can happen if this doesn t go well I ve also developed my own coping tricks Shift the spotlight Since my social anxiety is based on fear of what others think of me I decided to face my fear and turn the focus to the people I m talking with I find knowing what to say next isn t as difficult when I make the effort to listen better Find camouflage At meetings parties even family gatherings I ve learned to keep a low profile by standing near others who are more outgoing and talkative I know I won t need to contribute as much to the conversation I can simply look interested and nod my head at the right times At times I ve been asked if I was bored or angry though so now I make a point of smiling more Bring sweets and sips Since social anxiety and medication for depression both contribute to dry mouth I always carry hard candy or a water bottle to sip from Sucking on candy is soothing and relaxing Also I have an unusual container and unique cozy for my water so I share a little of my personality without saying a word and it makes a good conversation starter Let accessories speak I use this same idea with clothing and accessories when I know I m going to be in an anxiety triggering situation My trademark items are boots and bracelets The attention they draw is usually admiring and I feel more confident when the focus on me is positive Tagged with anxiety atmosphere fear social About the author esperanza Has 732 Articles 1 COMMENT Depression Definition Disorder August 31 2014 Reply Sometimes anxiety can be associated with a physical illness such as thyroid disorder Symptoms occur with varying frequency and intensity but may include all of those listed above as well as trembling chest pain nausea and fear LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message RELATED ARTICLES Appreciating the Compassion Fatigue and Vicarious Trauma Experienced by Therapists February 2 2016 12 35 am The long row of 80 motorcycle police officers in a two wide formation was followed by a black hearse and a black limousine We passed them Stress Relief Knit Away Your Worries February 1 2016 1 17 pm Knitting has fans of all ages and both sexes who will tell you that the handicraft calms the mind and helps with stress relief Healthy Attitudes and Values Can Over Time Help Ease Depression and Anxiety January 19 2016 12 39 am You probably dislike as much as I do phrases like Just pull up your boot straps Just snap out of it and You just need Easing Anxiety Through Music January 5 2016 7 02 am Sometimes

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  • Shattering Broken Records | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    each put here to live And I don t know about you but I plan to run not walk into the best years yet Reflection Question What past records do you need to shatter Tagged with Carol Kivler confidence Drawing Strength Hope Optimism About the author Carol Kivler Has 44 Articles Carol A Kivler MS CSP of Lawrence NJ is the founder of Courageous Recovery a division of Kivler Communications designed to raise awareness remove the stigma and instill hope in those who live with a mental health diagnosis Her mission is to have society and medical professionals view individuals living with mental illness as courageous survivors who want to be accepted not rejected respected not pitied and admired not feared Carol provides programs to hospitals medical and nursing schools as well to associations organizations and corporations Further Carol has been interviewed numerous times about her experience on television radio and in print Carol has written two books My Journal of Gratitude and Will I Ever Be the Same Again Transforming the Face of ECT She is currently working on her next book Unwrapping the Gifts from Depression Visit Carol s websites www CourageousRecovery com and www carolkivler com LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message RELATED ARTICLES The Most Important Gift You Can Give Yourself December 24 2015 12 01 am There is a book which changed my life in such a profound way that I used to share it with my patients at the partial The Two Things We Can ALL Use October 1 2015 12 01 am I had the opportunity to attend the DBSA I to We conference in Chicago this past weekend as both a participant and a When Someone You Love Is Lost In The Illness May 7 2015 12 01 am Today s LifeTool is for GIVING HOPE I recently met a man whose story is like so many others This post is for him those people What Is Wellness February 4 2015 12 01 am Optimal Health this was my working definition of wellness for many years I liked it because it allowed me to include more people However Book Categories All Books Anxiety Depression Children For Loved Ones Living Well Memoirs Treatment CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing

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  • Miracles in the Sharing | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    Question What is your biggest fear to sharing about your disorder Tagged with Carol Kivler About the author Carol Kivler Has 44 Articles Carol A Kivler MS CSP of Lawrence NJ is the founder of Courageous Recovery a division of Kivler Communications designed to raise awareness remove the stigma and instill hope in those who live with a mental health diagnosis Her mission is to have society and medical professionals view individuals living with mental illness as courageous survivors who want to be accepted not rejected respected not pitied and admired not feared Carol provides programs to hospitals medical and nursing schools as well to associations organizations and corporations Further Carol has been interviewed numerous times about her experience on television radio and in print Carol has written two books My Journal of Gratitude and Will I Ever Be the Same Again Transforming the Face of ECT She is currently working on her next book Unwrapping the Gifts from Depression Visit Carol s websites www CourageousRecovery com and www carolkivler com LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message RELATED ARTICLES Reviewing 2014 Embracing 2015 December 29 2014 10 57 am What feels like the end is often the beginning Thea Thijssen As 2014 comes to an end take time to reflect on the good A Final Goodbye December 22 2014 9 48 am Once you ve had a cat s affection you ll always have a heart connection Unknown This past week I brought my beloved cat Rascal to the Self Kindness Starts and Ends with You December 15 2014 11 30 am Be kind Everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle John Watson When looking for a quote to begin my blog piece this Sounding Board Needed or Provided December 8 2014 1 01 am Even though I can t solve your problem I will be there as your sounding board whenever you need me Sandra K Lamberson Life Book Categories All Books Anxiety Depression Children For Loved Ones Living Well Memoirs Treatment CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing Read more February 1 2015 2 12 pm Winter 2015 TAKE THIS TO THE BANK Stressing out about finances These strategies can help you take control of your wallet and your worries by Kelly James Enger

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  • Your “Second Life” Is Waiting for You | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    the most out of the rest of life I would need to spend more time focused on mental wellness not mental illness My second life began with this shift of attitude and I never looked back By no means do I ignore that I live with a mental health disorder that could crop up at any time I just no longer dwell on it Like many of you I continue to take medication speak with my therapist when needed and incorporate both good physical and mental life sustaining strategies Start today to enjoy your own second life Reflection Question What is the first step you can take to start your second life About the author Carol Kivler Has 44 Articles Carol A Kivler MS CSP of Lawrence NJ is the founder of Courageous Recovery a division of Kivler Communications designed to raise awareness remove the stigma and instill hope in those who live with a mental health diagnosis Her mission is to have society and medical professionals view individuals living with mental illness as courageous survivors who want to be accepted not rejected respected not pitied and admired not feared Carol provides programs to hospitals medical and nursing schools as well to associations organizations and corporations Further Carol has been interviewed numerous times about her experience on television radio and in print Carol has written two books My Journal of Gratitude and Will I Ever Be the Same Again Transforming the Face of ECT She is currently working on her next book Unwrapping the Gifts from Depression Visit Carol s websites www CourageousRecovery com and www carolkivler com LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing Read more February 1 2015 2 12 pm Winter 2015 TAKE THIS TO THE BANK Stressing out about finances These strategies can help you take control of your wallet and your worries by Kelly James Enger Read more SoundOFF MOMS DEPRESSION What is it like to be a mom with depression What is hardest for you What helps you cope CLICK HERE TO ANSWER CURRENT RESEARCH Shake It Off Not So Easy for People with Depression New Brain Research Suggests 2 27 2015 Harsh winter brings some psychological benefits says UB researcher 2 24 2015 Study

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  • A Saturday Morning Conversation | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    those essentials when speaking with Eunice My hope is that you too find a friend like Eunice Reflection Question Which friend can you call today Tagged with Carol Kivler About the author Carol Kivler Has 44 Articles Carol A Kivler MS CSP of Lawrence NJ is the founder of Courageous Recovery a division of Kivler Communications designed to raise awareness remove the stigma and instill hope in those who live with a mental health diagnosis Her mission is to have society and medical professionals view individuals living with mental illness as courageous survivors who want to be accepted not rejected respected not pitied and admired not feared Carol provides programs to hospitals medical and nursing schools as well to associations organizations and corporations Further Carol has been interviewed numerous times about her experience on television radio and in print Carol has written two books My Journal of Gratitude and Will I Ever Be the Same Again Transforming the Face of ECT She is currently working on her next book Unwrapping the Gifts from Depression Visit Carol s websites www CourageousRecovery com and www carolkivler com LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message RELATED ARTICLES Reviewing 2014 Embracing 2015 December 29 2014 10 57 am What feels like the end is often the beginning Thea Thijssen As 2014 comes to an end take time to reflect on the good A Final Goodbye December 22 2014 9 48 am Once you ve had a cat s affection you ll always have a heart connection Unknown This past week I brought my beloved cat Rascal to the Self Kindness Starts and Ends with You December 15 2014 11 30 am Be kind Everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle John Watson When looking for a quote to begin my blog piece this Sounding Board Needed or Provided December 8 2014 1 01 am Even though I can t solve your problem I will be there as your sounding board whenever you need me Sandra K Lamberson Life Book Categories All Books Anxiety Depression Children For Loved Ones Living Well Memoirs Treatment CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing Read more February 1 2015 2 12 pm Winter 2015 TAKE THIS TO THE BANK Stressing out about finances These strategies can

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  • Women & War | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    in general she says If you have a hurricane or another catastrophe more women are likely to develop PTSD than men Some common symptoms of military related PTSD include inability to sleep nightmares during sleep extreme anxiousness in waking hours overreaction to loud noises such as a car s exhaust backfiring and heightened irritability Dana C the former Marine knows all about how combat related PTSD catapults the individual into a constant state of hyper vigilance making it impossible to rest or sleep peacefully In many ways she says it s similar to what women experience in domestic violence You re never safe even in your own home even when you go to sleep she says Chard says female veterans with post traumatic stress are more prone to depression as well Predisposing biological factors that may be genetic along with social norms and pressures all contribute to the problems women face Chard explains Depression is more of an inward turning disorder says Chard adding that women are more likely to cope with trauma by internalizing it In terms of symptoms she adds you see excessive sleep social withdrawal a lack of interacting with your spouse or children PTSD is not a lifetime disorder It is something that can be treated in a majority of individuals there is hope if they seek treatment Women are also more likely to come down with eating disorders and in the most severe cases to engage in self injurious behavior such as cutting On the other hand male veterans who are suffering from post traumatic stress historically tend to abuse alcohol and drugs more Chard says Another issue is the differing responsibilities that female and male soldiers typically face when returning from war When women deploy and come home it is often in a different context than men says Karen D Davis a researcher at the Canadian Defence Academy in Kingston Ontario There could be issues that have a disproportionate impact on female soldiers such as primary responsibility for children both physical and emotional explains Davis who is a sociologist and section head at the academy s Leadership Institute Even with the cultural shift of men sharing parenting responsibilities and taking on more of the household work women by far still put in many more hours each week at childrearing Davis points out explaining that women returning home from the front lines typically face more domestic duties than their male counterparts How does a mother coping with PTSD handle child care as well she asks rhetorically of the need to recognize this challenge Yet family can be an asset in providing a psychologically stressed out soldier with help according to Lorraine S who served with the Canadian Forces in Afghanistan Lorraine witnessed the horrors of war while working in a hospital in the southern city of Kandahar I have a very strong family support network and I would email or phone my husband or parents she says of the times when it became a challenge to remain mentally balanced in the war zone The wonderful thing about family is you don t have to tell them what s wrong They just know something is wrong and they can give you the moral support that you need No one though disagrees with the efficacy of professional help Through observation and personal practice Lorraine found that one of the best ways to cope with mental health issues whether for males or females was to get help right away We d do what we call a walk and talk she says of her time in Afghanistan It s a chance to get it out so that people aren t bottling it up Back home getting help from the military s mental health services isn t always easy Angela D a Massachusetts resident who has PTSD is one of the 1 475 women the VA treated in 2007 at its various mental health programs around the country Angela says she considers herself one of the fortunate ones because she was admitted to one of the four PTSD residential facilities for women She was sexually assaulted twice by fellow members of the military and while serving in the First Gulf War was almost kidnapped by a local man when she visited an open air market during a rest period He was sniffing me and saying he wanted to marry me He tried to grab me and pull me away Angela said She managed to escape but the memories of that incident and the other assaults held her captive for years Sleepless nights poor eating habits and nerve wracking spells of anxiety made life miserable When at last she was admitted to the facility Angela says she found a nurturing and safe environment that became her training ground for learning how to cope Treatment for PTSD can include individual and group therapy family counseling and medications Dana the Marine vet is also working on regaining peace of mind She attends weekly veteran combat support group sessions that deal with PTSD and also sees a mental health social worker though not as frequently as recommended because of VA staff shortages Veterans Affairs officials say there is a multi year push to hire additional mental health experts to serve veterans returning home from the wars The proposed federal budget for 2010 calls for a 15 percent increase in overall funding for the VA from 97 7 billion to 112 8 billion Dana who became an American citizen through her military service says she is making progress She has resumed her work toward a doctorate in medieval history and hopes to teach at the college level someday As for Angela she s a full time college student pursuing a degree in social work One day she plans to work with troubled children and their families For now Angela continues to receive VA counseling explaining that the healing never ends And the sooner the soldier seeks that healing the better according to Lorraine the Canadian

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