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  • Anxious Times | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    has not only struck home but also has become a new and very difficult reality What the future holds Scott M has dealt with anxiety disorder for 15 years but it didn t prevent him from having a successful career as a firefighter Retired now Scott has a comfortable pension plus a solid part time job with a media service His wife has a career with the state of California Even though the state s had financial difficulties Scott s not terribly worried about the future with one notable exception their kids college funds However Scott knows he and his wife are luckier than most His own brother in law for example faces a possible layoff We re really fortunate and blessed when it comes to our career paths and our stability he says On the opposite end of the spectrum is Chattanooga Tennessee minister Jeff C who works as a hospital chaplain He won t have a job as of August when the one year chaplain training program ends What s more he notes the outlook for hospital chaplains is bleak The future he admits scares the living daylights out of me Formerly a traditional pastor in a rural Virginia community Jeff left to enter the training program following a major depressive episode He knew when he took the position that he d have to look for work again but he didn t realize how gloomy the economic forecast would be The idea there may not be a job out there is beginning to haunt me he admits When depressed the last thing you want to do is talk to other people It s a matter of forcing yourself to do it What I do as a chaplain now is pretty specialized And frankly when hospitals slash their budgets they can only cut doctors and nurses so much so they cut ancillary positions Jeff adds He could go back to working as a traditional pastor but he considers that future even more uninviting Churches make their budgets by what people put in the plate he explains and the people who are putting money in the plates can t make a living To cope Jeff avoids focusing on the news When he needs a boost he goes to the hospital s labor and delivery ward to gaze at the newborns He also tries to avoid dwelling on the economy and keeps himself as active as possible Of course it s hard for him to avoid bad news as a hospital chaplain he encounters plenty of employees distressed about the economy I work at a public hospital which is never in the black and I see a lot of people with anxiety about how stable their jobs are Looking ahead It s hard to look into the future and see anything good about today s tough times But as Shred says just as winter is followed by milder weather financial spring will also come It s important to see a therapist if you need one he adds If you can t afford one look for self help groups although Shred acknowledges even looking for help can be daunting When depressed the last thing you want to do is talk to other people It s a matter of forcing yourself to do it For Corinna L whose future is tied to the battered automobile industry contact with others only reinforces bad news Other people tell me about things because they know I don t watch the news or read the newspaper the Westville Illinois woman says Her husband is retired from automobile manufacturing Diagnosed with depression she s worried the industry won t make it and that in turn will affect his monthly retirement check Right now I am dealing with my depression being out of control for so long and trying medication after medication to get it back in check so much so that my own job has been affected and I am not financially able to help our family s income so we are living mostly on his retirement she says It s very stressful right now For Astascia C who lives south of Seattle the best approach to her dual diagnosis of depression and anxiety is to head them off at the pass Astascia s totally proactive She avoids television news channels preferring to read the news a strategy that allows her to pace her news intake by only directing her attention to what s important to her She also consulted with her physician once she began feeling more anxious about the economy with a resultant adjustment of her medications Her husband s federal job offers them some financial security which helps Otherwise Astascia says she pays attention to the big picture not little tiny details like what stores are going out of business Plus she reminds herself that it s OK to worry just about her own family and not everyone else Make sure you have an open line of communication with a safe person she advises Go talk to a professional or a close friend and don t be afraid to speak up if your symptoms are worsening Putting things in perspective Megan points out that while the economic situation is universally stressful for those with mood disorders it s a much tougher ball game Other people may be able to empathize slightly more but I really do not think that they can truly understand the anxiety panic attacks or depression if they have not experienced it themselves she says Mike Dow the psychotherapist says Megan s right on the money He advises his clients to change the things they can in their own lives but also remember that much in life is beyond our control Don t dwell Do what you need to do to take your mind off things and don t feed the dragon he says referring to self criticism Choose a healthy behavior that will take even 10 percent of your awareness away

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  • Self-Kindness Starts and Ends with You | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    kinder to yourself Tagged with Carol Kivler confidence Mindfulness motivation Negative thoughts About the author Carol Kivler Has 44 Articles Carol A Kivler MS CSP of Lawrence NJ is the founder of Courageous Recovery a division of Kivler Communications designed to raise awareness remove the stigma and instill hope in those who live with a mental health diagnosis Her mission is to have society and medical professionals view individuals living with mental illness as courageous survivors who want to be accepted not rejected respected not pitied and admired not feared Carol provides programs to hospitals medical and nursing schools as well to associations organizations and corporations Further Carol has been interviewed numerous times about her experience on television radio and in print Carol has written two books My Journal of Gratitude and Will I Ever Be the Same Again Transforming the Face of ECT She is currently working on her next book Unwrapping the Gifts from Depression Visit Carol s websites www CourageousRecovery com and www carolkivler com LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message RELATED ARTICLES How To Use The Past To Improve TODAY January 7 2016 12 01 am As the New Year starts rolling in you may be eager to look ahead identify what you want to do or accomplish in your The Most Important Gift You Can Give Yourself December 24 2015 12 01 am There is a book which changed my life in such a profound way that I used to share it with my patients at the partial Do You Ever Get Lost In a Sea of WHAT IF s September 24 2015 12 01 am Does this ever happen to you I was supposed to go over to a friends house for a Sunday gathering They said to come around The BIGGEST Myth About Meditation July 23 2015 12 01 am Meditation IS a very powerful LifeTOOL There s now a lot of research including brain scans of meditators validating meditation as valuable practice for our health Book Categories All Books Anxiety Depression Children For Loved Ones Living Well Memoirs Treatment CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing Read more February 1 2015 2 12 pm Winter 2015 TAKE THIS TO THE BANK Stressing out about finances These strategies can help

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  • A Big Box of Hope | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    Strength guilt Homelessness Scott Nychay About the author Scott Nychay Has 20 Articles Scott Nychay was an award winning editorial cartoonist who is now drawing attention for mental health issues He s been diagnosed with clinical depression anxiety and OCD Today he has his own studio and speaks with mental health organizations about using art to manage co occurring disorders His clients have included SAMHSA U S Department of Veterans Affairs National Coalition for the Homeless DBSA SAVE and Microsoft Nychay attended Drake University Poynter Institute for Media Studies and received his B A from Columbia College His work has appeared on CBS NBC and in USA Today The recipient of over twenty honors including first in the nation from the Associated Press Sports Editors and the John Fischetti Finalist Award will preview his first graphic novel exclusively at hopetocope com Drawing Strength is the true story of synchronicity creativity and recovery To find out more please visit www nychay com LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message RELATED ARTICLES Naughty Nice and Nicotine December 15 2014 12 20 pm Movers and Takers Last time I mentioned a moving company guaranteed to make Santa s fecal list RECAP On November 3rd we hired and paid this Let Go of Frozen Turkeys November 26 2014 3 38 pm Last time I mentioned moving cross country Naturally this drastic change can trigger episodes of um instability The new location is ideal the Loosening Guilt s Grip November 13 2014 12 01 am Just a couple days ago I found myself grappling with feeling guilty I wanted to share the LifeTools I used to loosen its grip A Moving Story November 12 2014 12 27 pm So I ve missed a few weeks here at hopetocope Why A cross country move with so many moving parts it d make Rube Goldberg proud My wife Book Categories All Books Anxiety Depression Children For Loved Ones Living Well Memoirs Treatment CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing Read more February 1 2015 2 12 pm Winter 2015 TAKE THIS TO THE BANK Stressing out about finances These strategies can help you take control of your wallet and your worries by Kelly James Enger Read more SoundOFF MOMS DEPRESSION What is it like to

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  • What a Difference Your Words Make | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    NJ is the founder of Courageous Recovery a division of Kivler Communications designed to raise awareness remove the stigma and instill hope in those who live with a mental health diagnosis Her mission is to have society and medical professionals view individuals living with mental illness as courageous survivors who want to be accepted not rejected respected not pitied and admired not feared Carol provides programs to hospitals medical and nursing schools as well to associations organizations and corporations Further Carol has been interviewed numerous times about her experience on television radio and in print Carol has written two books My Journal of Gratitude and Will I Ever Be the Same Again Transforming the Face of ECT She is currently working on her next book Unwrapping the Gifts from Depression Visit Carol s websites www CourageousRecovery com and www carolkivler com 2 COMMENTS Craig Schade August 11 2014 Reply Thanks for you wellness ideas I look back at where I was and how difficult each day became and compare how I feel today the biggest difference was when I took ownership for my recovery and acknowledged the process would be mine to control I knew change would take time I knew the time would be filled with good and bad days I knew the skills I have learned would help in my recovery and most of all I knew I had the courage and strength to fight we find out who we really are and why are core beliefs make us so important to the people in our life while the past 12 years have been stressful I have become a better husband a better father and most of all a better person Craig Schade Christy August 11 2014 Reply Thank you so much for your message These words ring so true in my life and it is a great reminder to myself and for my 17 year old son who also struggles with depression Thank you to esperanza magazine I have so much respect and love for what you are doing to change the lives of people with mental illness their families and those that just do not understand From someone who has lived with depression almost my entire life you are making a difference Thank you LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message Book Categories All Books Anxiety Depression Children For Loved Ones Living Well Memoirs Treatment CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am

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  • Striving for the “Gold” Medal | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    fought and trained to get back in the game of life Not only did we fight to survive our illnesses we fought to thrive in spite of our disorders The events were arduous and the strain intense yet we held on until we crossed the finish line to recovery This week as I attend as many Special Olympic events my own schedule permits I will sit watching with pride knowing those of us with mental health disorders have endured and persevered to not only stay alive but in the process also a won the RECOVERY gold medal Reflection Question What medal are you striving for in life About the author Carol Kivler Has 44 Articles Carol A Kivler MS CSP of Lawrence NJ is the founder of Courageous Recovery a division of Kivler Communications designed to raise awareness remove the stigma and instill hope in those who live with a mental health diagnosis Her mission is to have society and medical professionals view individuals living with mental illness as courageous survivors who want to be accepted not rejected respected not pitied and admired not feared Carol provides programs to hospitals medical and nursing schools as well to associations organizations and corporations Further Carol has been interviewed numerous times about her experience on television radio and in print Carol has written two books My Journal of Gratitude and Will I Ever Be the Same Again Transforming the Face of ECT She is currently working on her next book Unwrapping the Gifts from Depression Visit Carol s websites www CourageousRecovery com and www carolkivler com LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message CURRENT ISSUE Recent Issues November 1 2015 2 07 pm Fall 2015 GLENNON DOYLE MELTON Truth warrior In her Momastery blog her popular speaking tours and her book Carry On Warrior Glennon Doyle Melton shows it s OK Read more August 1 2015 2 07 pm Summer 2015 LEE WOODRUFF STRESS TEST After a family crisis left Lee Woodruff with symptoms of depression and anxiety she found the courage to reach out for Read more May 5 2015 9 31 am Spring 2015 DEPRESSION WHAT BREED IS YOUR BLACK DOG The unwelcome pup looks different for everyone and your particular form of depression can make a difference in choosing Read more February 1 2015 2 12 pm Winter 2015 TAKE THIS TO THE BANK Stressing out about finances These strategies can help you take control of your wallet and your worries by Kelly James Enger Read more SoundOFF MOMS DEPRESSION What is it like to be a mom with depression What is hardest for you What helps you cope CLICK HERE TO ANSWER CURRENT RESEARCH Shake It Off Not So Easy for People with Depression New Brain Research Suggests 2 27 2015 Harsh winter brings some psychological benefits says UB researcher 2 24 2015 Study Linking Suicidal Behavior Psychotic Experiences

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  • SoundOFF! Rebuilding Self-Worth | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    all the things I did do and I congratulated myself on that J K TORONTO ON WHEN I WAS too depressed to even move off of the couch I took up crochet My hands were busy and I produced interesting useful things That gave me a sense of accomplishment with a minimum amount of exertion since I had just enough energy to move from my bed to the couch to sit and watch TV Stephanie via Facebook I have a little tablet of paper saying I will do one thing today I fill out one of those each day with just one thing to accomplish it can be something I m good at then I get some self worth from completing at least one thing each day If it is an okay day then I might go on to other tasks but it s nice knowing I can stop at one and be good with that J V CUMMING GA I REALIZE THAT structured time is important so when my church advertised for a part time office volunteer with computer skills I contacted the office manager and he was delighted to sign me up Being in an atmosphere with very kind helpful people makes a huge difference My depression isn t cured but I have more confidence and realize people appreciate me and I have marketable skills Name Withheld EL CAJON CA GO TO some kind of support group where you feel supported and a sense of belonging K HOMESTEAD FL EVEN THOUGH I don t like this part of me I still have to love myself I remind myself that if I weren t me I would like me I wouldn t seek out the love and kinship of others if I didn t think I deserved it in some way So I take a moment to think about something I like about myself that I want other people to see and I try to amplify it B H STERLING HEIGHTS MI FORCE YOURSELF to keep doing or start to do again something you know you do well I perform poetry and I was on a hiatus With a supportive friend I went to open mics again and shared my work Slowly slowly it helped me regain some of my confidence and sense of self Sometimes it helped to read poetry from when I had not been depressed Name Withheld SILVER SPRING MD Tagged with Reader Response About the author esperanza Has 732 Articles 1 COMMENT Margo Charles September 2 2014 Reply I was suffering with low self esteem and severe depression for a long time With the great help of a mentor which I obtained through the program I m attending my sense of self worth reappeared He taught me how to believe in myself again by letting me use my own discretion in doing different projects This built up my confidence to such a high level that I am now able to think things through much clearer

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  • Power to the positive | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    says Try to soak in those positive feelings like a sunbath for at least 30 seconds and that will reinforce that neural pathway of pleasure in your brain allowing you to have more and deeper experiences of pleasure as the practice becomes more regular for you Travis 35 from Alberta found solace in this kind of mindful embrace of the positive when he was in the grip of depression Again learning to recognize corrosive thought patterns was the first step When you find yourself enjoying a laugh smiling in appreciation or experiencing deep happiness you can train yourself to recognize the moment and take the good Being aware stepping back from my thoughts and asking Was that a good thought Will it help me to think that way or is it going to hurt me thinking that way allowed me to transform my negativity he reflects Travis says that with several weeks of practice he was able to use a method of breathing and meditation to change his mood into a neutral peaceful state and then into joy I would be going to work and I would tell myself that I don t want to be here that I don t want to do this But then I would put my hand over my heart and breathe in sending myself love and positive energy beautiful flowers or sunshine and imagine those entering my heart and neutralizing the negative thoughts he explains Thanks to that exercise Travis says he would be able to quickly transition into a productive day Suspend judgment Another approach to transforming the brain s negativity bias derives from an Asian religious framework that encourages us to refrain from judging external circumstances as either positive or negative Srikumar Rao PhD a former business school professor who has written books on creativity and personal mastery sees this as even more powerful than a practice of deliberately cultivating optimism or positive thinking Embedded in the notion of positive thinking is the thought that something bad has happened he explains There is a judgment inherent in the term We all make snap judgments all the time you miss a train it s a bad thing You get fired from your job it s a tragedy Then if you re trying to use positive thinking you somehow have to spin these experiences completely around But now I generally try to focus on what s under my control and what isn t He instead advises not rushing to judgment at all What happens if you don t label your experiences when they happen Since you only suffer when you label events as bad your suffering never begins and you don t have to use any kind of technique or positive thinking to transform your judgment of that experience he says Maybe missing that train allows you to strike up a conversation with someone on the platform who can be helpful in your life Or getting fired from your job ultimately leads you to an even better position I would put my hand over my heart and breathe in sending myself love and positive energy beautiful flowers or sunshine Rao advocates remaining neutral about what we habitually label as setbacks because more often than not these events ultimately present us with opportunities to improve ourselves or develop more resiliency He also encourages individuals not to define themselves solely in terms of results and outcomes because this primes the pump for negativity After all there will always be times when we fail to reach a goal There is an alternative Rao says Don t invest in the outcome invest in the process Confront the worst In his recent book The Antidote Happiness for People Who Can t Stand Positive Thinking British journalist Oliver Burkeman presents another alternative to positive thinking His take which derives from the ancient Stoic philosophers involves deliberately confronting painful emotions in order to fully accept and resolve them In order to be truly happy we might actually need to be willing to experience more negative emotions or at the very least to learn to stop running quite so hard from them he says If you stop to think about how badly things might go you generally find that things are not as tragic as they first appear Confronting the worst case scenario saps it of much of its anxiety inducing power Tibetan Buddhists have codified this approach into a practice called tonglen in which individuals visualize taking on their own suffering or the suffering of others while breathing in then releasing it on the out breath Pema Chödrön an American Tibetan Buddhist nun regularly teaches the meditative practice as a means of dealing with depression and anxiety While it may seem counterintuitive to deliberately invite in what we consider to be negative emotions the theory here is that acknowledging our pain and suffering actually permits us to gain some distance from the emotions In tonglen practice when we see or feel suffering we breathe in with the notion of completely feeling it accepting it and owning it Chödrön says Then when you exhale you are radiating compassion loving kindness freshness and anything that encourages relaxation and openness Choose to change The key to all these approaches is to gain awareness of how your thoughts translate into your emotions and begin to insert some contemplative space into that process Then you can choose how you react whether your inclination is to deliberately cultivate an optimistic response refrain from judging your experience or meditate deliberately on suffering in order to release it Tugboat captain Erick 43 of New York says that before he began counseling for depression he would often get angry over minor irritations or lose his temper with colleagues then end up feeling terrible about himself But now I generally try to focus just on what s under my control and what isn t Erick says I can t do anything about certain situations but in my own mind if I

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  • Viewpoint: What have you done for me lately? | Esperanza - Hope To Cope
    lucky that I didn t get any of those jobs If I failed to meet lowered expectations what would that say about me My depression had narrowed my field of vision so much that I couldn t see anything positive things that I had accomplished people who really did think that I knew what I was doing All I could see were the threats and dangers real and imagined There was no respite when spring arrived In early summer I hit bottom paralyzed by a matter of absurd in consequence At that point there was nowhere to go but up The climb was made easier by a dawning awareness that I wasn t really a total failure That wasn t exactly a mantra to live by but it was enough at the time Even so it would be another two months before I felt competent again It would be years before I had a saner view of success helped by a sudden insight that can still surprise me for its simplicity Success like life itself is cumulative There are bad days and even bad decades The Red Sox were perilously close to having a bad century These do not erase the good things You don t have to start all over In other words success is not written in chalk Now that is a pretty good mantra Tagged with Michael Rafferty pessimism viewpoint About the author Michael Rafferty Has 15 Articles Michael Rafferty is a freelance writer and consultant for nonprofit organizations He and his wife live in the Boston area 3 COMMENTS Arthur April 29 2014 Reply Michael Rafferty s article was truthful and motivating He describes exactly what many of us go through after a job loss or when we enter the tunnel of darkness Thanks for your insight Arthur Bob April 29 2014 Reply I was let go from my position April 15 2013 due to falling short in quota This sent me into a downward spiral of discouragement and depressikn for 6 months I finally took a job at less than 1 2 my pay just to get re engaged in life 6 months later I m about ready to seek new opportunities that will pay me what I m worth in the marketplace It s been a very challenging year to say the least but faith brings renewed hope and self confidence one step at a time Angela April 30 2014 Reply It s weird how we think that if we fail that we should be looking elsewhere for something to make us feel success But we should never make a decision when we are in a tunnel I would not be teaching now if I had quit Have faith and hold on maybe you just need time to take a break LEAVE YOUR COMMENT Cancel reply Your email address will not be published Required fields are marked First Name or Nickname Do not use full name Email Message RELATED ARTICLES Kick pessimism to the

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