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  • Shawn Brown
    how I do that is to trust God and Clean my house Also I only hang out with others that feed the hungry You can pay to have your aura cleaned all you want but as soon as you walk into the grocery store it is going to get dirty again You must learn to clean your own aura and it starts from the inside out It s just a lot easier to pay someone else to do it When it comes to connecting to the intuitive connection I am afraid that you must do the work yourself by working on your issues and practicing daily meditation there is no way around it This is something you must engage in to be successful We all must go on this journey to find our own Truth ALONE and within Know Thyself As you emerge on the other side of your courageous self searching experiences and face your dragons The new you will rise out of the ashes as paradigms that no longer serve you fall away Only then can you begin the deepening vocation of Service to others True Service is the service that is given to you by the Universe not co dependent horse trading but true unconditional Service this is what the holistic professional must strive for in order to be successful Once you listen to and are guided by your heart and your Guides your life is no longer your own You will have less worries when you let go of old belief systems and resentments Spirit will take care of all of your needs The cleaner vibration that you now are is attractive and your clients will be encouraged to find their own Truth They will also tell others of your Service Give your clients the courage to find their own answers and Truth for themselves Why not teach your clients that they can discover their issues on their own Just by being who you are and being present with them when you are practicing your chosen craft creates a safe environment for them to start observing their own Inner self This is called holding sacred space If they don t want to discover who they are on their own and they want you to fix them and aren t growing forward let them go Dependency is not Service Writing this column is one of many ways I do Service and I hope it will inspire you towards a happy and successful way of life if you want it I help individuals that just need a shift in thought I often have someone call me and ask How did I become successful I can spend an hour or thirty seconds explaining this It boils down to Trust God and Clean house In the past I used to suggest hundreds of ways to tweek their business and at the end of the phone consult the caller would reply Yeah I know all of that but how did you REALLY do it I don t think it is very productive to talk with someone for an hour with no real help because they are really looking for that one note that will get them to Carnegie Hall So I have learned that when I initially consult with someone I suggest that they read at least one of my books or have gone through the course just so we are on the same page They usually figure it out on their own after that Getting the flow going and keeping a forward motion maintained is an indispensable prerequisite for a life of abundance and joy no matter what your occupation If you are having an abundance set back this can change Once your energy goes out to places that very much need it with no attachments to the outcome a funny thing happens you start receiving ten times over your original investment When I first started my holistic business another of the metaphysical concepts that resonated with me was The Universe IS Abundant The Universe is a loving generous force that wants to give to us constantly and completely If abundance is not happening in your Life then it s time to find a place to be of Service and schedule some time to visit your Spiritual Advisor This is not the individual that you pay money to clean or read your aura We pay someone to do that and tell us our future because we don t want to do the inner work and want someone else to make our decisions usually telling us what we want to hear A Spiritual Advisor is someone like a hypnotherapist or counselor that is like minded and has actually spent a significant amount of time being educated in his or her field With a real seasoned Spiritual Advisor or Mentor be ready to start cleaning house again Remember the word AGAIN It has become my mantra Here I am again How did I get here again I see this pattern again Ha This is where the real work starts Also continue developing your intuition and seek your answers in meditation and prayer without ceasing The only problem that stands in the way of Abundance for most people is that they want to write the menu and if what they want is not on their plate they stay stuck We are sitting at the bus stop waiting for a bus and God drives up in a Mercedes but we keep looking down the road for the bus In order to be guided by the Universe and Serve it is important to KNOW that whatever is on your plate is the perfect meal Once you are in Acceptance of this it s like realizing that you want to get into the Palace but your back is leaning against the front door If you just turn around in one nano second the doors are open for you OK no more metaphors Thank You I finished

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  • Shawn Brown
    a vampire if they appear to be progressing out of that paradigm If they exhibit positive changes in their behavior or they seek to and initiate tools to better their lives there might be hope I have rarely experienced this This non vampire change constitutes choice Conscientiously choosing not to be a vampire takes awareness that you are one Vampires usually stay in denial until something catastrophic cracks their denial shell Before that they think their behavior is working for them On some level it is working to keep everybody away And what is their biggest fear Abandonment and Connection If they continue to feel the need to suck my energy with no growth they will not be rescheduled I simply tell them that I am not their therapist and bless them on their way At this point in my experience vampires don t even call for an appointment My boundaries are so healthy that I am invisible to them I am not even detectable on their radar screen Vampires were in my life to teach me healthy boundaries Once I chose to remove them with Grace by telling them either in person or by letter that I just wasn t their therapist they stopped showing up in my life The Devil s in the Details Please don t refer vampires to anyone else When they ask what they should do next and they will just tell them it really is their decision to chose their own direction When choosing to remove a vampire from your books they will wonder how the decision was made to all of a sudden stop the relationship In your head you have been trying to figure out how to remove them for weeks even months If you have allowed this client to continue because you did not recognize the disorder early enough sometimes you might start feeling threatened by their awareness that you are terminating them or at least you might feel that there is a possibility of them confronting you for letting them go They might say Well what brought this on Again this is merely a plea to try to see if you will engage in psychic warfare you become the bad guy for letting them go and they get to be the victim once again The hardest thing we as caregivers hate is the silence after inserting a healthy boundary We say I am just not qualified to help you any longer so take care Then what we want to do is somehow start explaining to that person the whys because what we really want is for the other person to say it s ok Guess what folks It won t happen and now we have put ourselves in a position to get all hooked up again The main reasons most practitioners keep vampires as clients is their fear of losing money and or confrontation But the worst part in all of this for the therapist is that they carry a resentment and hope that the vampire will change because they don t want to be the ender Get comfortable with inserting a boundary and then zipping your lips After stating your boundary just be with the uncomfortable silence It will get easier the next time if there is one The test is to keep vampires out of your business so that the clients who truly need your assistance can be scheduled Vampires will not even show up as your healthy boundaries develop Once you send a vampire away even though it tugs on your co dependency strings it will be much easier to recognize this dynamic from then on It is kind of like sticking your hand in a flame it is less likely that you will do that again Unless you are really off then I suggest that you read the part about seeking counseling again smile Exorcising The Vampire You do not need to explain yourself to a vampire other than the fact that you are just not their therapist enough said If you detach by sending them a letter stating that you just aren t qualified to handle their situation that is appropriate too Expect a phone call Continue the mantra I am just not qualified to handle your situation zip it Get off of the phone The vampire has a penchant to see if there might be one last way for them to hook in This is usually attached with a mini drama just in case your time hasn t been taken up enough This is quite a laughing matter once you have developed a sense of humor and understand just why a vampire is a vampire Remember being a vampire is a choice Keeping a vampire serves neither you nor them because it is not a relationship based on honesty Sometimes when first developing a healthy business it takes time and guts to let a vampire go Don t question your boundaries Detach from the emotion when removing a vampire Be discerning it s just healthy business sense Discernment The act or process of exhibiting keen insight and good judgment Dictionary com Betrayal is Required I feel the need to explain the term discernment in depth How do we acquire it and how important is it to integrate this experience into our senses Discernment regarding the soundness of the spoken word allows us to choose who we do and don t want in our practice and in our lives Discernment requires the experience of some form of betrayal This is an interesting concept It states that you have given someone something very fragile and vulnerable and they have not seen the value of or have not honored that something to your expectations Trust has been dashed by a person that you have chosen to confide in It is usually a heart sharing of something you value Betrayal involves some emotional investment and emotions are a very expensive commodity No one experiences the act of betrayal

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  • Shawn Brown
    the chews he wanted This time the sound of the chewing seemed kind of unfamiliar not the common crunch of a chew flip rawhide So I quietly excused myself and peeked out the door Much to my surprise I looked down at Hitch and he had the biggest treat the most wonderful of chews in his mouth and he was smiling reveling in his treasure and I knew he was thanking me for being such a good Mom He had found the leather wallet that my client in the expectation of her first massage had forgotten on the couch As I looked from his mouth to the couch there was a trail of non important items to Hitchcock Most of the items except paper money were shredded Warped credit cards notes and a driver s license with a few punctures were all that was left from the original organized package The living room looked like a party had happened as he struggled to separate all the non important items from his prized genuine leather chew looking up at me in perfect joy and contentment He was in heaven all of a sudden wasn t This dramatic scenario took place in real time in about 15 seconds Can you imagine the words that wanted to come out of my mouth Yes that and more In my head I immediately went from Well I guess she gets her wish to have more excitement in her life to this will certainly be a complimentary session should I tell her now or continue to give her the most relaxing massage she has ever received I shut the door and continued the next half hour pulling it together with all of the tools I had learned to stay calm and grounded Part of me was envisioning the outcome of my demise part of me was present and professional as I finished the session What would you have done I stayed with the basics I left the massage room and told her to take her time I rushed out of the room and closed the door Hitchcock had eaten most of her wallet I gathered up all of the articles shredded or not and put them into a straw basket I placed the standard glass of water on the table and waited near the business area for her descent back into the real world As she came out of the room I reluctantly stood by the table with the basket in my hand At first she didn t notice me she was so relaxed and had a smile of total relief and relaxation in and about her She uttered Wow that was the best massage I have ever had I can t thank you enough My thoughts were focused on the basket and I knew she wouldn t be thanking me at all in about one minute As I tried to breathe and stay as grounded as possible I held the basket out in front of

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  • Shawn Brown
    given the opportunity to remain at rest In order to move successfully forward in a holistic business you can t stop and rest on your laurels I don t know what a laurel is but I know you aren t supposed to rest on it That is not to say that you can t take a few days off What I mean is there will be lots of opportunity to create a more and more successful business For example as a massage professional if I only buy three sets of sheets and they have to be washed every day then they will look more worn out than if I constantly add to the sheet supply and the whole of them aren t washed as often Purchase supplies as you go and start becoming familiar with store sales Needs such as paper supplies massage crème essential oils a better seating chair magazines for the waiting room are all taken into consideration If I spend the extra money to buy five pounds of lavender instead of 16 ounces at a time there is a big savings there Think big long term and out of the box There are going to be times that you really don t want to fill a space in your planner with work because you just got free tickets to a concert Or you want to watch a favorite program on TV tape it be creative The definition of sacrifice a giving up of one thing for the sake of another will pay off Eventually you will have a fairly consistent schedule that you can arrange to suit more of your needs because you will be inundated with business But in the beginning God created the Heavens the Earth and your Holistic Business so stay connected to your intent and the contract you agreed upon to be of Service At first your planner needs to be open and available most times to schedule clients Inflexibility about not working specific days times etc narrows the field for establishing a solid clientele base within the first year After you have become busy you can afford to schedule specific time off Constant demand on investment in your holistic business from marketing supplies and your availability is necessary and a given Stuff Cell phones beepers answering machines and e mail all of these devices were designed to keep you in touch with others The worst sin any professional can do is not get back to a client within the hour or at least the next few hours Leave specific notice about how you can be contacted or when your hours to contact the caller will be Make sure your voice message resembles a business I can t tell you how many times I have called a supposedly holistic professional s number with the person picking up the phone saying Hello OK now the perspective client has to play the guessing game All of this stuff was designed to make you accessible to

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  • Shawn Brown
    office from these dates to these My voice mail says something like BeWell today this is shaun brown if you would like to leave a message at the sound of the tone that would be great I check my messages frequently and you can usually reach me between 9 10 most mornings If you are having trouble stepping into and owning your practice you may want to rethink chapter 1 Motives I attended a holistic group get together quite awhile back There were newly educated as well as established therapists in attendance One of them had a main income in a corporate setting and was starting a massage practice called watsu That therapy starts when you and the therapist get into a swimming pool or large spa at about 90o temp As the client starts to relax the therapist gently and skillfully administers stretching and movement with your body It is actually quite a wonderful experience and if you get the chance I suggest that you try it As all of us there we had put our cards on the table He was handing out his business cards talking to individual therapists and offering his watsu massage with the first time special of 45 per session It sounded like a wonderful thing to try so in talking with him he had heard that I taught the business of a creative successful practice and wanted to trade with me I said great So when I got home I emailed the address on his card and waited to see what he had available The email address was sent back and I figured it was a typo so I called his number and got his voice mail I left a message on his voice mail telling him I wanted to schedule an appointment and possibly one for my son Well a week went by and I didn t hear from him Thinking that there was a misstep by him missing my call I called again I let it go and thought how flakey I never thought about it again TWO WEEKS AFTER the last phone call now that would be three weeks he called and left a message letting me know he was returning my call about scheduling an appt HUH No I didn t bite If someone is that much of a saboteur I am thinking it can only get worse Most of the time missteps happen and I think people deserve a second chance but I got the gut feeling that at this point he was unable to put his words where his action was It was as if he was just playing house The hardest part about blowing someone off is that you might get to see the ripple effect of your poor judgment and it can come back to haunt you If you are going into a business any business either be in it own it breathe it live it or get off the horse Because all you are

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  • Shawn Brown
    be back to pick it up After some time you will be surprised how the ego has less of a list because you are learning to slow the ego down and it knows after your meditation time it will be recognized So basically you are setting the intent to slow down your brain waves As you do this every day it will become easier and easier When you are finished with your 5 20 minute meditation you will have a list of things already written down that your ego has prepared for you to do how cool is that I have been a meditator since 1992 and I still use a notebook every morning The ego just never goes away BUT it can be trained to sit on the sidelines and give my Inner Self time with my Soul s purpose before it takes me into my day of Service Setting up a prayer station speaks to the ritual senses like sight smell and intent It gives you an opportunity to have me time Honor yourself and the Universe in this way Your Angels are just waiting to give you guidance so pick up the phone Meditation doesn t have to be an overwhelming ritual If you are like me you can set yourself up to not want to do anything if it becomes a chore There is an abundance of meditation information out there that allows you to choose whatever path you like My experience has been that as long as my intention is focused on connection 5 20 minutes is perfect Participate in all of the different classes and workshops that are offered Just remember to keep it simple God doesn t really care Some people spend all of their time in classes looking for the answer out there At some point the journey must start inward All of your answers are inside What was it that Jesus said The Temple of God lies within The purpose of the exercise is to feel connected to Universal energy and when you feel disconnected start again BREATHE This takes discipline but the reward will be staying in your Power and not being blown off course by passing clients You won t be exhausted by the end of the day because all of your energy was misspent trying to hold up the Earth MENTAL Are you half full or half empty Mental attitude is everything If you re half empty you have a lot of work to do If you re half full it s a good start Being optimistic will usually attract optimistic clients Your job as a holistic therapist is to coach support and nudge your client towards their center Most people come to you because they have forgotten what center feels like or how to get back there Be a guide by being there daily for yourself first How can you guide your clients if you are not centered and clear If you don t know who you are or where you are going how can you point your client in the direction that leads them to their center Keeping a positive mental attitude is mandatory It s good to remind the client that mental attitude has everything to do with their health Give them homework if they act interested Suggest that they start a gratitude journal Upon awakening have them write down what they are grateful for each day Writing down what they are feeling and what they are grateful for will put their mind in proper perspective and sets up correct thinking for a successful day it helps to get them in touch with their feelings Mention the part about meditation too Remember You are what you think Ofcourse suggestions are usually taken when advice is asked I am getting much better about only being who I am and waiting for the client to ask how I got there I suggest Give advice once if they take the lead and go for it great If they don t respond to my guidance then telling them to get a journal again or whatever will be the beginnings of a co dependent relationship Some clients just want to vegetate in the arms of the gifted therapist s craft just as long as the client doesn t become a vampire or take on the role of the helpless child being a vegetable sometimes can be a good thing PHYSICAL Take care of your temple which is your body You need it to live in Be glad you have one regardless of what shape size or color it is Hopefully you have come to a place of acceptance for yourself and the body you were given to live in One of the most important aspects of being here is being in your body not distracted somewhere else Find some activity that you like to do and do it Make it part of your lifestyle instead of joining a gym and power exercising for three months only to lose interest and set your self up for failure Don t walk through the failure door Here is a brief list of ways to take care of your body c Massage bodywork trade if possible c Dancing anyone can shake their booty c Self massage using a tennis ball on acupressure points c Yoga swim exercise walk bike c Spa bath aromatherapy c Vitamins supplements herbs c Rest retreat time out what a concept Temple maintenance taking care of your body doesn t have to cost a lot You could be a walker It s more about enjoying it I belong to a gym with a pool and yes I am trying to be committed every time I see the monthly dues withdrawn from my bank account I knew I needed to do something but wasn t sure At first a trainer thinking I might want to work on my six pack abdominal muscles just kidding interviewed me I followed him into an

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  • Shawn Brown
    s all about you We are already whole and perfect and come from a perfect Source So let s get to the place where we can start recognizing the filters of lack and separation and replace that with care for the Self There are four essential food groups Spiritual Emotional Mental and Physical These are the most important areas you will be educated in because you are the most important thing in this whole equation Who can give to others what they don t have Jesus a Master of the four essential food groups once taught a very simple but not easy marketing slogan He said Know Thyself Hmmm There is not one major religion or Spiritual practice that doesn t have that basic bottom line of Know Thyself So what do you think Now that you understand Einstein s theory of relativity let s get relevant Self Care is probably the least addressed area in a practitioner s education and lifestyle but definitely the most important Time after time I see therapists working constantly with others Day after day they take care of their clients needs They go about the routine of building their holistic practice without the slightest concern for their own personal well being Most of them do not realize they are not taking care of the most important person in their lives themselves If you can t care for yourself it is impossible to care for others If you have not created a plan designed to keep you healthy both inside and out no one can do this for you When it comes to clients and your practice if you are not there for you then you cannot be there for them To be totally present in a client s healing process is what it is all about This is why they come to see you They need to see what center feels like If your focus is scattered elsewhere with needs that keep you distracted then the job you are getting paid to do will be ordinary The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is the extra The intent is to be present as an athlete is in competition present to perform a well defined task The client will greatly benefit from this attitude of honor That s the Power of who you are without being anything else The next column will speak specifically about Self Care but become familiar with the foundation of the holistic therapist Again these are the four food groups c Spiritual c Mental c Physical c Emotional The holistic therapist must integrate all of these categories in order to maintain a healthy energy level and not feel drained at the end of the day Energetic balance enables you to keep an even keel At least have the intention to start integrating these into your life This is a life long process You might have a better handle on some of the groups Others may be out of balance The ones most out of balance are probably the toughest ones for you to change and the ones to get going on right away The most difficult one for me is Emotional I will continue to be in therapy counseling and embrace my shadow sides until I am only light Ha Maybe not in this lifetime However I do believe that I can only be present in someone else s life when I can be present in my own Sometimes you will find yourself working with clients that are needy You will feel drained after being with them They are needy because they perceive themselves as Powerless I call them sucky needy vampires Their belief system requires that they must pull energy from others instead of becoming disciplined and obtaining their own connection with a Higher Power Generally the therapist will not be presented with on going vampire cases Most people just want help getting into the boat and on to the other side of the river If the vampire persists and is unable to make the leap into the boat do not reschedule them This pathological behavior stems from a lack of connection with the life force Symptoms are the client is always late or is a no show is always in a crisis saves up large groupings of crises and draining stories to dump on you all at once and fails to move forward when the therapist tries to assist in the healing process The therapist will always feel a loss of energy The sucky needy vampire will be discussed in great detail in a later column There is a solution and as therapists not only are we getting in balance but the clients start following suit or they drop off We have been gifted on this planet with many paths to connection The therapist and the client can learn by choice to seek Inner Strength in a myriad of ways We can each obtain our own Inner Power and not feel the need to prey upon others All it takes is Intention Meditations yoga and Tai Chi are some forms of breath discipline and ways to connect with Spirit Remember we are connecting so we don t carry the world by ourselves Walking in Nature is another If you are using any of these techniques and they are working point these in the direction of the client if the client asks you how you stay so centered They will integrate them into their own life or not I teach meditation to interested students or clients I have found that a quiet morning habit of simple meditation evening possibly too has given me the experience of ongoing Inner Peace and a place to go for Sanctuary There are millions of people waiting and wanting to move forward that need your time and as you become more and more intentional about balancing your four food groups you will attract healthier clients MENTORS In my opinion until you have spent some time discovering

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    Sacramento area I have visited your whatever and am interested in teaching or creating a practice at your establishment Could I possibly schedule some time to talk with you so that I can share what my service can offer Like that When I put myself in the health club I belonged to I didn t want to take the time to move to the facility but be the out reach therapist because they had none I called the manager and suggested that they had a wonderful facility with many things to offer but had noticed that massage therapy was not available I went on to say that I had a practice just 3 minutes from their club and would be happy to have him come and receive a complimentary NEVER use the word free session This way he could see my facility and licensing and possibly use me as a resource for his members That was on a Monday He came for his complimentary session on Wednesday loved the massage and by Friday I had my brochures and cards at the front desk as the guests walk in As a payment for that advertising I give the club one massage certificate per month to be raffled off to their employees How cool is that My brochures and cards are present for all to see at the entry door Not only do many guests see my material but also the employees talk me up This endeavor gives me about one new client every month and two permanently scheduled through the year on average Getting going in this manner is called a scatter pattern One in about 20 calls will really want you and be amazed at how you found them But as you make the calls confidence must slide off of your tongue as if you are offering them a service that will change their lives Practice practice practice before you call All you need is to get your foot in one house and then you can say I am currently established at And because you are now already established it makes a wonderful lead in for the next house you want to be in if this is your wish The main problem I see when teaching workshops to students that want to become successful is they haven t practiced their lines I will ask the student What do you do There is usually a pause a shifting of their eyes and a few unrehearsed words blurted out Hmmm is this someone I am going to pay for their services As far as advertising spend money in small reputable holistic health magazines or catalogues This has been my best experience regarding in print advertising Forget the yellow pages it generally attracts the public and you get the freaks people who don t show up or they want your services yesterday In other words if you are going to put yourself out there in an ad target yourself in a place where like minded people will have a tendency to look If your talents do not lie in graphic design for an ad I suggest that you trade or pay for someone that has the talent Also selectively put your cards on reputable bulletin boards of health food and holistic bookstores word of mouth is always best though As far as bringing people into your private practice it is always about 1 Getting yourself out there and volunteering your time not in your profession but for instance show up at a fundraiser for your favorite animal organization just as a worker bee Trust me what you do for a living will come up 2 Give the first check you cut every month to a spiritual path God doesn t need the money but this is a symbolic gesture for you to give to Spirit as you want to receive 3 Pray meditate and ask for guidance daily 4 Talk yourself up big time to all who are interested Introduce yourself to your neighbors and workmates about your practice it s good practice Join as many appropriate organizations as your time will allow I suggest that you keep your day job and segue into your practice instead of scurrying off to work for someone else in the field that is new to you That can be a vicious loop You haven t honed your skills so you don t get paid much You ve given up your day job so now you need the money you aren t paid well enough to get out You are not valued and working for others now takes all of your time and energy that should be devoted to YOUR practice You already know your day job Yes you will be working two jobs There is a possibility that you can let the day job go by two years That means day job and then holistic practice nights and weekends This estimate is for the self sufficient individual not one with others incomes combined That can take less time because you have a net But for those working without a net you will do the dance of 1 inspiration 99 perspiration for about two years Following your bliss your passion being of Service and trusting the Universe will be the most rewarding job you will ever work your buns off to achieve But with this hard work and intentional effort comes Peace Abundance and Serenity promise Investment in your practice costs money but consider it an expensive hobby It s only money and there is plenty more where that came from Showing up to each day and doing what you can do in that day to better yourself and your practice will bring you to success As a new author I spent 5000 in the first few years getting my books webmaster print on demand company speaking engagements etc etc etc in place ran a full practice taught seminars wrote columns and volunteered my time This is

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