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  • Alan Cohen
    Opportunities About The Meta Arts Magazine Contact Us Legal Notices Creating Bridges Spirituality Philosophy From the Heart A Public Proposal by Alan Cohen It was after 11 p m the overbooked flight was already an hour late for takeoff and the crowd was getting grumpy If ever there was a chance to practice peace in the midst of annoyance this was it Finally we were herded onto the plane and I settled into my seat with hopes of getting some shuteye As soon as we reached cruising altitude the flight attendant s voice boomed over the P A system Ladies and gentlemen one of our passengers would like to request your assistance with a special event he is planning when we land Dave in seat 17B is going to propose to his girlfriend who is meeting him at the gate He would like you to help him deliver some flowers to her If 24 of you would each get one rose from Dave and give it to his lady before he gets off the plane you can participate in his proposal Dave will show you a photo of Heidi to make sure the right lady gets the flowers Ah what a wonderful idea I wanted to participate but I was seated too far from Dave to get to a rose before the other passengers When we landed however I was one of the first off the plane and I positioned myself off to the side to watch the romantic spectacle Sure enough there stood a lovely young woman waiting for her man One by one passengers exited the aircraft each with a red rose in hand With a smile each person delivered a flower to Heidi who shyly received them Then the passengers formed a semi circle behind Heidi waiting for Dave and the Big Question Finally all the passengers had left the aircraft except for Dave The flight crew exited but the groom to be was still conspicuously absent Then the pilot and copilot emerged They closed the door behind them commenting Well I guess that s it for the night The crowd stood silently watching waiting and hoping Had Dave chickened out Suddenly with all the aplomb of a Hollywood epic the airplane door swung open one last time now to reveal a handsome young man in a bright sailor suit Dave had arrived The audience breathed a welcome sigh of relief The knight in white carrying yet another dozen red roses strode proudly to his lady in waiting who by now looked like Miss America flowers piled to her nose Tears streamed down her cheeks as she nervously watched her man approach knowing full well what was about to happen Dave presented her with the flowers and ceremoniously dropped to one knee The audience was rapt By now it was nearly 1 a m but no one was going anywhere Over 100 people fell silent and watched with awe Then he did it He really did it

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  • Alan Cohen
    we are proud to offer you a sneak preview On our way out of the airport parking lot Mr Everit and I found ourselves in a slow moving line to pay the toll I began to feel impatient What was the big holdup Finally at the tollbooth we found a handsome olive skinned Italian man with thick white hair As he handed us our change he burst into several rousing verses from La Traviata At first I thought he was a kook but as he belted out the chorus I recognized quite a spark in his eye He was enjoying himself immensely and he wasn t a bad singer either When the toll man finished his performance Mr Everit and I smiled and applauded As we exited onto the state highway Mr Everit asked me Do you know what most people believe is the most boring job in the world I thought for a minute Security guard Nope Toll collector I read it in a magazine He always seemed to have the facts he needed at his fingertips Did he make them up too Do you think that toll collector back there was bored he asked me Certainly not I chuckled He was having a grand time Take what you have and make what you want Mr Everit stated dryly Take what Take what you have and make what you want he repeated matter of factly It s the secret of happiness Only a handful of people realize it You just saw a living demonstration That toll collector I asked skeptical That man had supposedly the most boring job in the world and he was in heaven A few hundred yards away thousands of people with more money and mobility are scurrying hurrying and worrying That man in his tiny cubicle refused to be stifled by his conditions He took a dreary tollbooth in the thick of impatient drivers and exhaust fumes and turned it into an opera hall I call that alchemy at its finest I looked back at the tollbooth now just a dot in the distance There was still a line of cars waiting for their surprise concert My face squeezed into a question mark Do you think it s possible to do that with any job I asked Can you just take any job and make it work There are two ways you can change your life he answered You can change your conditions or you can change your mind Your mind is more crucial because it s the one thing you always have the power to direct Clever people find ways to shine right where they are If I smoked I would have lit a cigarette Instead I reached for one of Mr Everit s Skittles Does that mean we re supposed to stay in boring jobs or dead end marriages Not at all he shook his head It just means you re not supposed to settle for less than what you really want So

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  • Alan Cohen
    himself and a seasoned mentor who changes his life in more ways than he can imagine We are proud to offer you a sneak preview I don t need any more money Mr Everit shrugged his shoulders I have enough His statement jarred me I d never heard anyone say they had enough money Even the wealthiest people I know always need more Some of the few millionaires I ve met were bigger whiners than people on food stamps It seems that people who think they don t have enough never get it and people who think they have enough never miss it You re really satisfied with what you have Don t you want to get richer I m already rich In fact I m the richest man in the world What Oh come on now Mr Everit I know you have a few bucks in the bank but you re no Bill Gates or Oprah He smiled Of course I m no billionaire If you define riches by money I m just an average Joe But if you consider the immense good in my life I am loaded I have a loving wife a job that fulfills me friends I can laugh with sunrises that warm my soul great books that stimulate my imagination music that inspires me Sure I have my challenges but they help me get clearer about who I am and what I want If I start to go into a funk I remember how blessed I am and things shift And now you re here What more could any man ask for He leaned back with his hands behind his head and flashed a grin so big I thought the buttons were going to pop off of his plaid shirt No sir Bill and Oprah don t have a thing over Bert Everit When it comes to wealth I m richer than a king We sat quietly for a long time In the silence I considered that I might have always had enough but didn t know it Maybe I was doing better than I thought He read my mind again Enough is not a number or condition he explained It s an attitude How you invest your money is important but how you invest your attention is even more important Focus on lack and your whole world is lacking Focus on enough and suddenly it s all enough So everyone on the planet is living in his or her own reality and we keep finding evidence to prove what we believe Couldn t have said it better myself he echoed Perfection is not a condition to be attained it is a way of seeing to be cultivated Take your basic supermodel People ooh and aah over her perfect body wherever she goes But she s never quite beautiful enough for herself She is terrorized by the tiniest wrinkle wart or sag She lives on one lettuce leaf a day and purges if she

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  • Alan Cohen
    day and life In one seminar a woman read aloud her essay describing her ideal day After relating many delicious experiences she read and then in the evening my husband and I go into Toronto to see our favorite opera performed by world renowned singers We ride in a big limousine which allows my husband to stretch out his arthritic legs When I heard her words something struck me as out of tune Why I asked her would you include arthritis in your ideal day Well she answered I guess my husband has had arthritis for so long that I can t imagine him without it Perhaps I suggested that is one of the reasons the condition has persisted We must be careful to build our experience around our visions rather than building our visions around our experience Your history is not your destiny Imagine a prisoner doing the Ideal Day exercise I get up in the morning go out into the prison yard and shoot some hoops with the other inmates he might envision Then I come into the prison cafeteria and find they are serving meat loaf for lunch But why include prison in the vision at all If you have been in prison for a long time metaphorically speaking you may have a hard time envisioning yourself out of it But if you can you are well on your way to freedom Any vision that includes the prison is not doing you justice While I was a guest on a radio talk show interview featuring my book Handle with Prayer a caller shared an inspiring story When my daughter was scheduled to go for surgery I asked my prayer group to pray for a positive outcome to the surgery he recounted At the prayer group someone asked Why accept the surgery as a done deal Let s pray that your daughter be healed without the surgery So we prayed for a natural healing When I took my daughter for her next exam the doctor informed me that her condition had cleared up and she no longer needed the surgery I cite this story not to influence you against surgery but to invite you to pray outside the box Sometimes we do not ask for what we want but for what we expect we can get or what others tell us we should have But if what we expect is less than what we want we have sold ourselves our prayers and our God short Abraham has said Never accept any reality unless it includes all of what you want To avoid booby trapping your visions or affirmations weed out elements contrary to your goal Always think and speak about where you want to end up rather than where you are coming from For example never try to lose weight seek to gain fitness Do not seek to avoid aging instead tap into your sense of youthful vitality And don t try to get out of a bad

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  • Alan Cohen
    Got to Believe Me by Alan Cohen Are you worrying about how something important to you will turn out I know the answer You ve got to believe me I dreamed that a friend of mine had just gone through a painful breakup with her boyfriend She felt devastated because she had thought for sure this fellow was the man of her dreams and they would be together for life Now she was heartbroken and discouraged and feared to face her future In the dream I was telephoning my friend from two years forward in the future From that vantage point I knew what had happened since her breakup Her future was already history to me During that time she had met a wonderful man they had married and she was very happy The breakup was of no consequence now in fact it put her in a position to meet this fine fellow On the telephone I told her Please listen to me I know this sounds crazy but I am seeing your life from two years ahead of where you are now I know what will happen because from where I am standing it has already happened Within the next two years you will meet an awesome man and be happily married You ve got to believe me I awoke from the dream feeling deep bliss and fulfillment There are many levels and kinds of dreams this one was an inspirational vision from a higher power Beyond the message for my friend I had received a universal lesson God could call any of us up and say Please listen to me I am standing in your future and I can tell you with perfect assurance that the thing you are worrying about now is utterly meaningless Everything is going to turn out all right and you will have everything you want You ve got to believe me One day when I had just begun to present seminars I was driving to a program and I began to feel nervous What if my presentation flopped What if people did not like me What if my anxiety undermined my skill And on and on Then another voice popped into my head with a profound statement that helps me even now It noted You always get nervous before a program and the program always turns out great So why bother worrying Instantly I relaxed and let go of my fear The program was a success and since that time I have approached my presentations with a sense of knowing that all is well and everything will turn out fine At one seminar a young Jewish woman tearfully told of a painful relationship conflict she was struggling with She was in love with a Muslim man but her father forbade her to see him This created a deep quandary for her since she could not reconcile her love for this man with her desire to honor her father s wishes and keep harmony

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  • Alan Cohen
    he is he hasn t cleaned his garage in 30 years and he qualifies for the Guinness If not the record book the beer Recently his property came up for sale and I decided to buy it My first task was to clean up the garage I set aside a Saturday to try to make a dent in the debris and got a few friends to help me We dug into the piles with zeal made several runs to the town dump swept every inch we could get to and neatly organized salvageable tools and supplies on shelves To my surprise the task went quickly and after about three hours of serious cleaning the place looked quite respectable It was to say the least transformed As I stood back and gazed upon the sparkling new space I was amazed that an area that took 30 years to mess up took only three hours to clean up Translating that process into personal growth I figure that improving our lives might be just as simple if we let it We can upgrade all kinds of old patterns and situations in a much shorter time than it took to create them Before we can do that however we have to let go of the notion that healing takes a long time is hard and requires pain Sigmund Freud taught that our childhood programming molds us for life and is difficult if not impossible for us to rise above Yet a later psychologist noted Creative minds have been known to overcome even the worst programming That psychologist was Anna Freud daughter of Sigmund A student asked the spiritual teacher Abraham if it is possible to teach an old dog new tricks Abraham s answer was swift and incisive You have no idea what an old dog you are Our true self Abraham explains runs deeper than any programming we have learned As spiritual beings our nature as wisdom and love provides us the strength to transcend the limits we have adopted Many people have shown up at my seminars carrying painful previous experiences with teachers and groups that sought to purge them of submerged evil They went to a seminar or church where they were convinced they were not as happy as they had thought and they needed to root out invisible demons robbing them of joy without them even knowing it Banishing such necromancers would require a great deal of time work dedication to the group s ideals and money So the students applied themselves diligently until they began to feel free Then they were told that the work was just beginning if they really wanted to advance they would need to take the next level of the course which required even more time work dedication to the group s ideals and money And so on While some such groups embrace truthful principles they become more enamored with the healing process than the healing result If such purging really got you free it

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  • Alan Cohen
    and listen This holiday season if you want to create a miracle more magnificent than the one on 34th Street keep inner peace at the top of your shopping list During this time when many people have a tendency to get hurried stressed upset and depressed spiritual quietude will be the best gift you can give to yourself and everyone you touch The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing The mainest thing I know is kindness which brings God to earth and fulfills our angelic nature When Fiorello LaGuardia was mayor of New York City he created a unique reputation for his unorthodox playfulness and generosity and he was affectionately known as the Little Flower LaGuardia walked beats with cops on the street participated in speakeasy raids rode on fire trucks and sponsored orphanages to attend professional baseball games During a newspaper strike he went on the radio and read the Sunday comics for kids One cold night in 1935 LaGuardia made a surprise appearance in night court in a poor area of the city He told the judge to go home and took over the bench himself The first defendant brought before him was a shabbily dressed old woman accused of stealing a loaf of bread When asked whether she was guilty or innocent she explained that she took the bread to feed her grandchildren who were starving The storeowner insisted on pressing charges and demanded that she be punished to teach others a lesson I ve no option but to punish you the mayor responded Ten dollars or ten days in jail As LaGuardia pronounced the sentence he reached for his hat and threw 10 into it Then he passed the hat around the courtroom and fined every person there including petty criminals traffic violators and police 50 cents for living in a city where a grandmother has to steal food so her grandchildren can eat When the hat returned to the bench it was filled with 47 50 LaGuardia emptied the contents into the astonished woman s hands and everyone in the court gave the mayor a standing ovation A Course in Miracles asks us to remember By grace I live By grace I am released By grace I give By grace I will release Receiving mercy when you expect punishment and giving it where it seems not indicated brings healing far beyond words Once on our way home after a long trip my partner and I had to delay our return home We arrived at the airport a day after our scheduled flight and presented the agent with our tickets for the previous day He studied them for a minute and told us This computer here says your tickets are not transferable I m required to charge you for a new ticket How much will that be I asked An extra nine hundred dollars he answered Not attractive I thought He could see it on my face But I m not

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  • Alan Cohen
    blood begin to boil and realized the ruffian needed to be stopped before he hurt someone badly Shui stood up blocked the fellow s path and the two exchanged angry words As the men were about to square off Shui felt a hand on his arm He looked down and saw a frail old man Let me handle this the elder insisted Shui watched in amazement as the old man invited the heavy to have a seat next to him Strangely he acquiesced The elder began to engage the fellow asking him questions about his life and looking him in the eye with kindness and compassion After a while the thug confessed that his wife had just died and he was in great pain he had gone out and gotten drunk to numb his agony The old man placed a comforting hand on the fellow s shoulder and he began to weep Before Shui s eyes the intruder was transformed from a villain into an innocent child When the train arrived at the next station the tough guy thanked the old man and exited the car Shui stunned sat down next to the old man and asked him Why did you stop me You were about to meet that man s violence with your own answered the old man In true martial arts if you hurt your opponent in any way you cannot call your act a victory We have all encountered people whom we feel we must protect ourselves from Yet there is a way to keep ourselves safe without hurting others It is the strongest way to protect our peace Although we have been taught that we must wield pain as a weapon to keep others at a distance it is not so We gain all together or not at all To wish ill upon anyone is to hurt ourself I used to visit a prisoner named Ron Years earlier in college Ron had a girlfriend named Jen One night the couple had an argument and in a fit of rage Ron beat her up Tragically she died Ron was convicted of manslaughter and sentenced to many years in prison I met Ron when he was up for parole after nine years of incarceration In contrast to his violent act I found him to be a gentle soul He was contrite about his crime and he had used his time in prison to advance his spiritual growth Ron studied A Course in Miracles he was active in the prison church he was liked by the other prisoners and staff and he had worked his way up to a responsible position managing the prison laundry When I visited Ron I sensed no cruelty in him and he certainly did not seem like a dangerous criminal to me Ron told me that he had been denied parole repeatedly because Jen s parents had mounted a citywide campaign to keep him in jail Each year when Ron was eligible to be

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