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  • She Stood Up to the Bully, But She Suffered Because of It -
    was beat and left for dead by two men The murder was later deemed a hate crime and the experiences and reactions of the people of Laramie was turned in to a play and later a movie Our elderly substitute sat in the back of the classroom her glasses reflecting the crying and heartache acted out on screen When we d finished the section allotted for the day we sat in the bright fluorescent lights waiting for the bell to ring I overheard Lucas make an awful remark about the man who was killed something along the lines of It was his fault I had reached my boiling point I d watched him laugh with his friends about people of color I watched how he spoke down to the girls in my class and refused to take them seriously and now I d heard him say a gay man deserved to die for who he was I turned towards him and asked why he said that Wasn t this class meant to teach us about acceptance Lucas smile remained as his eyes squinted at me and he said something under his breath about how I should just go worry about my Buddhist religion I exploded with anger yelling You racists sexist pig Who do you think you are The rest of the class stopped their conversations to look at me The new girl who knew no one who had no real friends yet yelled at this guy They had watched this guy mistreat anyone who was even slightly different than him and no one had said anything I spent my lunch period in the art studio shaking and trying to wrap my head around what I d just done or if anyone would ever be my friend after I yelled

    Original URL path: http://yourteenmag.com/uncategorized/stood-up-to-bully (2016-04-26)
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  • Building Self-Confidence as an Overweight Teenage Girl
    Building Self Confidence As I got older seeing the humorous side of things wasn t enough I still wasn t being me I was being fake and it killed me I hated it It was hard for my mother too because she wanted to help me When I was in 6th grade my mother started a program called I tri to help at risk teenage girls improve self esteem while training for a triathlon Suddenly for the first time I felt better about my body and about myself It wasn t because I was prettier or thinner It was that I found my people I decided I would do the program and it changed everything Suddenly for the first time I felt better about my body and about myself It wasn t because I was prettier or thinner It was that I found my people I found my calling in fundraising student government and volunteering After that I never looked back But of course there was still that nagging part of me that wanted to lose weight so when one of the I tri board members Linda Frankenbach asked me to be part of a beta test group for a new weight loss coaching program for teen girls called Fitsmi Group Coaching I jumped on it Fitsmi has been great I ve lost weight and found a supportive group of new friends from around the country with whom I can be very open about my struggles and who get it As a result of my being part of Fitsmi I have been on Teen Kids News on Fox TV and now I m writing this article I guess that building self confidence is hard and you probably won t have it all the time because everyone has bad days Being

    Original URL path: http://yourteenmag.com/teenager-mental-health/building-self-confidence-teen-girl (2016-04-26)
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  • Bullied By A Friend
    people onto me I thought to myself What did I do to deserve this The bullying went on for a couple of months and it was just constant I felt betrayed upset down and depressed I was being bullied by a friend My life was falling apart I couldn t understand why people could be so cruel and so hurtful I felt like my life wasn t worth living anymore At this point I started to starve myself I lost a lot of weight and the doctors told me that if I kept doing this I would become anorexic The bullying got worse and moved beyond school She would stand outside my house and cause trouble and then she would say a lot of abusive stuff I felt so scared I was letting myself go letting them win What could I do If I went to school I got abuse If I stayed at home I got abuse On the last day of school she passed a note during my exam saying Be outside after school because I will be waiting for you After that I couldn t concentrate I was distracted upset and so scared I asked the school to ring my mum to pick me up from school That night this girl brought other kids to my house I thought to myself Enough is enough I m going out there and finishing this I had so much anger so much hurt that it started to get to me I went out and tried to speak with her and one of her friends smacked me in the face My nine year old sister was there and she ran off because she was scared I was going to get hurt I felt like I was going to lose my temper

    Original URL path: http://yourteenmag.com/social-life/bullied-by-a-friend (2016-04-26)
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  • Your Teenager Hangs with Kids you Don't Like
    Start with a conversation Your willingness to really listen to your teenager will naturally lead to a conversation about friends Be careful with criticism or your teenager might push back or jump to a friend s defense Reflective listening works well For example Hmm I see what you re saying You like spending time with Sally but she s getting in trouble for some things that you want to steer clear of Focus the conversation around your teenager s goals specifically what helps and what interferes with reaching those goals rather than focusing the conversation around what you don t like about specific friends What if it doesn t work If more subtle approaches have failed consider what bothers you about these friends If it seems that your teenager s grades or motivation have declined since spending time with this group tie responsible behavior with the privilege of spending time with friends This will help your teen connect his actions to consequences If this group engages in illegal or dangerous behavior then set concrete consequences Try helping your teen understand that a good way to take care of himself is to spend time with friends who take care of themselves i e who forgo risky behavior Teens may be aware of poor friendship choices but reluctant to change them if they feel they lack other social options Encourage out of school activities to help your teenager expand his social network Anything else we should consider Be mindful of why you don t want your teenager around certain friends If you re concerned about safety or you see a negative shift in your teen s mood or behavior after spending time with certain friends you should intervene However if you don t like certain friends for other less harmful reasons it

    Original URL path: http://yourteenmag.com/social-life/teenagers-friends (2016-04-26)
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  • My Teenage Daughter Is Spoiled
    in particular caused my teenage daughter to have a fit Mom You let him do whatever he wants That stick is dangerous for him You re not setting any limits You re spoiling him she yelled as she tried to get the stick out from between the dog s teeth You never let me do whatever I wanted And then I saw a light bulb go off in her brain You never set limits with me either and I m screwed up too I have to say though that I know I tried After years of struggling I finally gave up Maybe it s because she s the youngest Maybe it s because she s a stubborn red head Maybe it s because I admired her independence and knew when I was a kid I had pulled the same stuff on my own mother So I explained Oh well and sorry I did the best I could I guess I took the path of least resistance It s too late now When you didn t listen to our guidelines as a toddler or kid we knew you certainly wouldn t pay attention to input as a teenager And she s a great kid She does well in school has lots of after school activities and hangs out with a good group of friends My issues with her revolve around the fact that she doesn t get enough sleep and that her mess has invaded the whole house Today I have a childhood friend coming over for dinner It s probably one of the first times she s been to our house Emily s junk is all over our house and I had a fit So she cleaned up some of her mess and then ran to a party My husband

    Original URL path: http://yourteenmag.com/blogger/spoiled-teenage-daughter (2016-04-26)
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  • I Am An Upstander: One Teen's Story - YT For Parents
    out During a free period at school I was sitting in the lobby near a group of boys One of the boys Eric suffers from Tourette syndrome causing him to twitch constantly Eric is well liked and to my knowledge had not experienced any bullying because of his disorder Yet while I was sitting near these boys I overheard Eric s friends poking fun at him possibly just a little too much One of the boys Colin said he would pay Eric twenty dollars if he could go a minute without twitching I was bothered by the comment but I knew Colin and Eric were friends so I opted to mind my own business A few minutes later I turned around to witness many of the boys mimicking Eric s quick spasms laughing hysterically Eric forced a smile and some fake laughter but it was clear he was uncomfortable To me the boys were crossing the line The line between taunting and teasing is thin and it is easy to unknowingly cross it I waited until Eric walked away to confront his friends not wanting to embarrass him I calmly approached the group of boys and asked why they were taunting their friend Laughing they said they were just kidding and that Eric was used to it I explained that from my experience even though he acted unaffected the teasing and taunting hurts I revealed that when I was in lower school my friends would occasionally joke around and tell me I was fat I always laughed it off but it really got to me and also made me extremely self conscious regarding my weight As I was speaking the boys seemed to understand where I was coming from Their eyes became sympathetic as they realized what they had been

    Original URL path: http://yourteenmag.com/hot-topics/i-was-the-upstander (2016-04-26)
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  • Bullying Archives - Your Teen Magazine
    s Social Life 0 The days of setting up play dates are over So what now more 05 Aug 2015 Tag popularity My Daughter s Journey from Bullying to Cutting to Recovery 0 I thought the bullying had ended Little did I know more 29 Jul 2014 Bullied for Being a Goody Two Shoes 0 My daughter refuses to join in a peer s pranks and it s making her unpopular more 02 Oct 2013 How To Stop Teen Bullying 2 Talk to your adolescent about how to handle a bully before she meets one more 18 Sep 2013 What if Your Teen is Bullied for Being Smart 0 Get expert advice on what to do when your teen or tween is being bullied for being smart What parents teachers and the teenager can do more 07 Nov 2012 Tag bullied for being smart parenting expert school bullying teens and academic success Do Schools Teach Conflict Resolution 0 Get expert advice from Dr Carolyn Ievers Landis on where to find information about how schools teach conflict resolution skills to teenagers more 26 Oct 2012 Tag bullying conflict resolution dr carolyn Ievers landis schools Talk to the Bully s Parents Expert Advice 0 Get expert advice on when and how to talk to a parent who s child is bullying your son or daughter more 24 Oct 2012 Tag bully s parents bullying bullying at school Dr Lisa Damour Bullying and Fear of Retribution What Should a Parent Do 0 Get expert advice on what parents can do if their teen tween is being bullied at school but due to fear of retribution will not let parents intervene more 22 Oct 2012 Tag bullying bullying at school fear of retribution Jason Culp Lawrence School parents Why Don t We Focus On

    Original URL path: http://yourteenmag.com/category/social-life/teen-bullying-tips (2016-04-26)
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  • Bullying Coach
    my teenager doesn t want me to get involved because he is afraid that he will lose playing time if I do Answer As was said during the panel discussion sometimes kids need to learn to deal with jerks Throughout our lives in high school college and the workforce bullies are still a part of the landscape It can be helpful for you to acknowledge to your child that you don t like or support the behavior of the coach and that you define it as bullying This alone may help the child to know that this type of behavior is not acceptable In addition you can help your child use this as a lesson for the future in terms of choices Sometimes we have to tolerate inappropriate behavior by others such as a boss if we really love something we are involved in And other times not being exposed to the inappropriate behavior is more important so we might decide to stop playing the sport for that coach or in the adult world stop working for that company This empowers the child to know that he or she does not agree with what is going on but is making a choice to stay engaged and cope with the adversity This strategy applies as well with the student who does not want you to get involved The student must make a choice between tolerating the inappropriate behavior or having you become engaged in the issue Without a doubt bullying behavior on the part of a coach should be brought to the attention of the school principal or youth league director Many schools have explicit policies against this kind of behavior and will address it if they are notified Jason Culp is the Head of Upper School at Lawrence School in

    Original URL path: http://yourteenmag.com/etc/bullying-coach (2016-04-26)
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